Ok...time for some fun!!!<BR>No fault divorce makes it to easy to bail on a marriage. Being able to claim irreconcilable differences is total crap. <P>If you could change the catagory/reason...what would you like to see it changed to!!!<P>Mike

Hi Mike,<P> 40 years ago, it was different. But it did not stop anyone from getting one. People just went to Nevada for a quickie D.<P> It took my parents a couple of years to get theirs through. But it still happened. They just didn't live together the whole time,my mom found someone else before the 3 years were up. My dad was a WS.<P>------------------<BR>Deb

Okay here goes.....<P>I meet a lot of women when travelling and they make me feel so tingly but I love my wife and don't want to hurt her by having an affair so I'm divorcing her and the kids!!!<P>....Too long I suppose?<P>Will be thinking of you Monday. HUGS!!

Skip the reasons, I'd go for a court ordered big fat red "A" tatooed on the forhead of the one who had the A causing the divorse!

<P> Very Hurt, <BR> <BR> I like that one. Kind of like "The Scarlet Letter."<P>------------------<BR>Deb

How about the "I've CHANGED" category. To me it's kind of the extreme of the "devil made me do it".. See, it really wasn't me...I became someone new to do this.<P>But, I am the one pursuing the D after a year and a half. My H and OW already have a new baby (they still don['t live together though) and OW is pushing her way into his family.<P>so...I'd like to D using "He's changed" into someone I don't want to be married to anymore!!!

I like the scarlet letter.<P>Or<BR>'<BR>I'm so SELFISH I don't care who I hurt.<P>Or <P><BR>ME, ME, ME,ME, ME!

Here's one. In some places, the newpaper prints the names of all those who visit prostitutes. At least the ones arrested. <P>How about listing the names of all who are breaking up families? You know those who make it their personal aim to pick up men or women in bars, internet personals, setup meetings, basically your manipulators. <P>I know that the OW that has broken up my marriage, had just that in mind. Her marriage was rocky so she was going to make sure she hooked up with someone so that she could inflict more pain than she had. Bingo, she got one. Reeled in a big sucker. My H. Is that a cruel statement? Yes, it is but unfortunately too true. <P>Sure would like to print her name and picture in the local papers (she travels all around the Bay Area), maybe it should be in USA Today and warn all potential victims. Watch out! An innocent looking Chinese lady posing as someone in need of a male married friend is out on the prowl and may be lurking outside your internet right at this momment. She starts out by saying that all she wants is someone to talk with, then companionship, then to meet and reach out and touch someone (more than AT&T). Possbily within 1 month she can convince you to do things you never would have done before and possibly regret for the rest of your life. All the while calling herself your best friend and lover. <P>Go figure. <P>L.<P>

"No-fault" divorces are horse-hooey unless both parties are in agreement that it is the best thing for them. If the WS wants a divorce and the BS wants to work on the marriage, then, I'd say the WS should get an "All My Fault" divorce.<P>Or the "I'm a Selfish _____" (fill in the blank) divorce.<P>BTW, surveys of couples that are happily married indicate that there are always at least 10 irreconcilable differences in their relationships. It is the manner in which you approach them that makes the difference. Irreconcilable differences are NOT reason enough to end a marriage.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

I go for the Big A. I still have my favorite dream of having OW (maybe H, depending on my mood) photo on billboards all over Houston with adulteress written across her.<P>I would mark cruel & inhuman treatment, he thinks if/when we divorce we should remain amicably, yeah right.

Hi mbtrk,<BR>how are you doing?<BR>I've not heard from you for a while.<BR>Nothing to add here, but just keep your spirits up.<BR>You are doing, I'm sure, a great job for your children.<BR>the rest is out of your hands.<BR>I sincerely wish you could enjoy some of the serenity I am now enjoying with my W who now seems to be out of the fog.<BR>I even feel guilty that I'm moving along now, and you're still stuck in the middle somewhere.<BR>I'll be posting on the "Recovery" board.<BR>Bon courage,<BR>Steve.

How about "genital necessity"

My reason is irreparable damage due to brain worm. <BR>I also like the idea of the Big A on the chest...might make a few people think before venturing out of the house for extracurricular activity!!<BR>Mike

Virginia is good, three reasons and only these can get you a divorce: Adultery, physical abuse and abondment. Seems my H did not like those reasons. Did not like it when I named OW in our papers either. After the fog lifted, he told me just how much she did not like being named as an adultress!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by living with pain:<BR><B>Virginia is good, three reasons and only these can get you a divorce: Adultery, physical abuse and abondment. Seems my H did not like those reasons. Did not like it when I named OW in our papers either. After the fog lifted, he told me just how much she did not like being named as an adultress!</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><BR>Maybe we should all move to Virginia.<P>Is Virginia's divorce rates lower than the rest of the states?<BR>

What a great state VA is. FL is a no fault state, but isn't there a civil action that can be filed after the D, such as unusual pain and suffering? Don't like myself for being so mean, but I want to expose this whole A and OW's emails to her Board of Education. She teaches elementary school. Can you imagine what values she imparts?<P>I know that vengence is the Lord's, but does He want to use me? <P>News today has been so bad. Sorry. \\\ Love and prayers to you all.

That's a good question, whatami....I think I'll use it....<P><B>I know that vengence is the Lord's, but does He want to use me? </B><P>The people at my church are always talking about how God wants us to be available and used by Him....hmmmm.....couldn't hurt to offer....<P>I agree with the big red "A"....there are so many useful words that it could mean.....<P>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<BR>

In Virginia, you can file a pain and suffering lawsuit too. I had one all ready to go with all the pain she has caused me and my kids. I needed to get back the money spent on moving (I had to leave our home, H is in military,and we lived on base), counselor vists (1000.00) in one year alone) and meds. Had a good case. She had no money, but even if she only paid me $1 a week for ever, she would be reminded that I got the last laugh. Oh yeah, I had harrassment charges ready to go as well. She thought it was fun to call me and have her friends call me and say hateful things. Would go really well with the lawsuit right?

Hey, Texas is a no fault state too, but that doesn't stop you from alleging adultery, abandonment or crueltry in a cross-petition and asking for compensation for same in the final settlement. You can even ask that your children not be exposed to OP during the divorce process, as well as compensation for community funds spend on OP during marriage. Divorce can be as messy as you want it, but do make sure its as fair as it can be. Get yourself a good lawyer.<P>Personally I like the "all my fault" grounds, but few WS would use it.<P><BR>Faye<P>

No fault is only valid insofar as both parties agreeing to it, as far as I know. You can file based on whatever grounds are available, as Buffy cites in her example. I have read that Florida is becoming more "divorce-damage aware," instituting requirements in high school that teens learn about marriage, AND, the spouse who has NOT filed can contest that the marriage is NOT irretrievably broken (in which case, the court can REQUIRE a reconciliation attempt, counseling or mediation for a minimum of 3 months before considering the divorce.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>