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I just want to ask a question. My h has been seeing this OW for about two years who knows really how long. They are soulmates blah blah blah it goes on. I told him I did not want to stand in his way. How can I stand between true love. The real scrape is that he took his kids to me her. He wanted there opinion. Has anyone else exprienced such a thing? I think he is crack pot. This has been going on for so long I just want to move on with my life. He tells me that he loves blah blah blah. But, I just can not believe that they are both that stupid. If he wants to see her that fine but he is not be with me too.
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mon, <P>Are his kids your kids? If so, you have a say in whether they meet the OW or not....<P>It sounds as though your love bank is pretty empty. How long have you known about the affair? Is there anything your husband could do to make you want to be with him and not just get along with your life?<P>I hope that these questions help you.<P>FOLKS???? Anyone else out there with ideas???<P>All the best, mon.<BR>--HBC
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Hi mon,<P>Are you still with us?<P>We've been slow to reply lately... and I apologize for not seeing this sooner.<P>How are you feeling now? Did your H introduce the children to his OW?<P>Let us know.<P>We do want to help!<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck
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They are my step children. Yes, You are right it is non of my business if they meet her or not. He tells me that he wants me to be close to his kids. Well, How can I be if they are told to lie to me. We have one child together she was in the hospital with the RSV virus. Someone ask about her and he supposly said that he was not sure if she belonged to him or not. I am so tried of this. I do not want by daughter raise like that. In time they will tell me, You know kids will let thing slip. I think he is crazy. He asked his kids their oppion. It is like to who do you like better. I heard the ow is not a nice person. I just want to move on. Please excuse my spelling.<BR>
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You are not saying how old any of these children are.<P>Either way this is between you and your husband, not his children, and yes they will probably say that they like her as she will go out of her to please them as she is trying to please your spouse and win him over, but watch out cause once she has them she wont need to be nice anymore.<P>Good luck! Sorry that you are going through this!
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When my H and I were going through "his" A, I told him under NO circumstances were our kids to have any contact with that HO. I even had it spelled out in the separation agreement that she was not to be around my kids in ANY capacity. Thank God, my husband honored this,(even though she tried to convince him that she could be a better mother to our kids than I could!), because now that we are back together, our kids do not have the same ghosts as me.
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