The incident the other evening involving my wife and au pair (See "Significant turn of events.....") has totally destroyed any chance of my au pair being comfortable interfacing with my wife. W succeeded in making the au pair feeling caught right smack dab in the middle which is exactly what I was trying to protect her from. She is so unhappy that she may leave to go home or ask to be placed with another family. We have a meeting tomorrow with the au pair counselor, who is a good friend and knows the score. I really sympathize with her and I told her last night that I don't blame her for feeling this way. She also said she can't bear to watch the way our son is being affected and the way my wife treats me. She's only 19 and didn't come here for this. I feel responsible because I knew there would be some friction before I hired her, but I thought we'd be improving by now. Naive me.<P>If she leaves, this will be a major disruption and my wife will be told that she's the cause of it. Of course, she'll turn me into the bad guy because I couldn't handle it alone. Thanks for the help, Honey.<P>WAT

I really feel for you, Dave. This is the last thing that you need to be having to deal with right now. I'm sure it will be disrupting for your son, too, and he is also dealing with so much right now. I will pray that everything will work out for this situation.....<P>Be Strong!

So sorry, Dave. This is the last thing you need in addition to everything else that's going on.<P>I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Hey Dave,<BR>Just when you thought that it was safe to go and live your life...along comes snafu #1,000,000???<P>Sorry to hear that your W has Brain Worm too...There is no known cure. I did here that they were trying to reopen Alcatraz as a site for WS's to get treatment.<P>Is there any way to keep the au pair away from your wife so that she doesn't have to deal with the irrational behavior of it all?? It's not right that someone who is employed by you has to take that kind of crap from your W.<P>I hope that things work out for you...got knows you have been working OT to try and make things right at home. <P>Mike

Dave,<P>Don't you have the meeting today with au pair & au pair counselor? Good luck. Hope everything works out well for you, the au pair, & especially your son.

sing - yes, it's tonight, but we have been talking a lot and she says she will try a little longer, but we have to figure out what to do to keep my wife in line. Could be another reason to go to Plan B - to minimize W's interaction with both of us. She overslept again this morning and I had to call continuously for about 15 minutes to get her to answer the phone. Her head is just not into this now after all the tension with my wife. My previous au pairs were more mature and didn't have to deal with brain worms in my wife's head. Actually, the one we had last year had a front row seat to the whole affair scenario and she stuck it out because she cared about me and my son and knew we needed support. Thanks for YOUR support!!<P>Dave

Dave, hope all goes well tonight with the meeting. Maybe this will all go away soon---at least we can all dream, right??<P>Take Care!