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OW supporting another addiction?
#906949 04/01/01 08:35 PM
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Have any of you got comments or ideas about more than one addiction? I am referring to the fact that I suspect that when my H and OW get together they (which is all the time because he lives with her for the past 6 weeks) drink alot and I'm wondering if they watch pornography together as he started to watch it every evening at home for awhile before I found out about her and he left. How can one deal with more than one addiction?
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#906950 04/01/01 08:43 PM
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Maezy;<P>I'm not qualified to give advice here...but there are those [Sisyphys where are you?] who can be very helpful. Can you give us more details? How long have you been separated? How long were you married? Is this the first time you have seen addictive tendencies? Has your husband been careful with his spending? Was he ever excessive in other areas like exercise or eating? <P>I hope these questions have opened the discussion. I will now defer to those more qualified than I to answer.<P>My prayers go with you.
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Most people who are addicts, have addictive personalities. . meaning that they are prone to addictions. And they often switch from one addiction to another. . they may give up drinking, but replace it with drug use, or they move to gambling, or sex, or spending $. I'm sure you're probably aware, there's not much you can do about it. Your H has to want to quit his addictions. I know first hand (from a prior marraige to an addict), how painful it can be to watch-and also to be involved with someone like that. Hopefully you will get some other replies.
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I always felt like my H was borderline to becoming an alcoholic. He has had two impaired driving charges but always stays sober during the daytime. To confuse me more, I have looked at his Visa statements since he is living with her and he buys beer every day or two but it is always "light" beer. We have been married 25 years and d-day was 6 weeks ago. He moved out that day after I asked him to.
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#906953 04/03/01 05:13 AM
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MAEZY-All alcoholic's do not drink all day long and light beer means only that there's not as many calories.<P>Buying beer on his Visa card?? Sounds like they have a wonderful life together. How long can that go on?

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