I guess you can say that my H and I are in the recovery stage. H has had a 2yr A with a of course a much younger Physco twit. It has been a nightmare as most of you know, if you have been victim to the thoughtless acts of an A. <BR>I have often wondered about my H having any contact with "HER" once he made the commitment to work our marriage out. Last night my H comes home from work and tells me that OW called him at work as he was leaving and she was threatening suicide. That she was going to take pills because she couldn't deal with the pain of him leaving her.Yada, Yada, Yada... H hung up phone and called the police department in her area to have a car go over and check on her. (H is a cop as well). So when he told me I was glad that H was honest with me about this contact with her. H stated that he couldn't live with himself if she killed herself. He was very depressed about this and me tired of her crap. The phone harassments to me at work & home. Her showing up on my doorstep, and places I go. I gave him angry outburst last night I felt like Carmela on the HBO series "The Sopranos" talking loudly and firmly "You want me to feel sorry for a W---- who F---- You?" Did you ever once think of MY PAIN in all this? Did you ever think about me when you were getting your thrills? H then said that he wasn't going over to OW house and said that the police can deal with her. H is lucky he didn't go.I think I would of thrown his cloths out on the lawn if he left. I was waiting for OW to do two of three things last night. Either kill herself in front of our home. Come after me. Or nothing at all. I asked my H was I going to be the next Mary Jo Buttafuco? Good Lord. H said that he wants our marriage to work and want to give it a fair shot. But when will this all end. When can the true healing begin. Most everyone I know has gone, are going through, this pain of Affairs. Is everyone doing it? I told my H that I would like an enthusiastic agreement to have an A! (With Him). I don't want to go through a divorce I want to build my marriage. Thank God for this forum! I am so happy that I can vent! <p>[This message has been edited by is it worth it (edited April 02, 2001).]

Doesn't it feel great to just get it out!!!<BR>Suicide, give me a break. Didn't that Russian chick on the Sopranos try that too? <BR>Maybe next time she won't pick on a married man!

Hi,<P> Tell him: You know how that feels. (wanting to commit suicide) Well, maybe not tell him that. I am just "sarcastic" so I would say it to my H.<P>------------------<BR>Deb

I loved the scene in one movie I'd seen that the BS took her ex's things put them in his nice little sports car and torched them...lol..

Suicide . . . what a clever and time-honored ploy. Don't buy it for a minute, sweetie.

Wounded2673-<BR>Thanks for responding. It feels great to vent! And yes that Russian Slut tried the same thing on the Soprano's. That scene goes throught my head quite a bit. I have told the now 25yr old OW slut bag that maybe she will think twice about getting involved with a married man. She kept apologizing to me how Sorry she was but still has the balls to try to win him back. "She evens says crap how beautiful my daughter is and she (OW) has morals not to break up a family." Am I missing something out of that comment? MORALS... What F------ morals does she have knowing that H was and is married and this TWIT met me when I was 9 months pregnant and still persued the relationship with my H. And if this TWIT was to think in her F----- Up physco mind that she was going to be a possible step mother to my 19 month old daughter she has another thing coming. NO WAY IN HELL would I ever let her near my daughter! <P>bnbsdbG<BR>Thanks for repsonding. I did tell H that same night he came home and told me her April 1st crap of suicide. I told him that if it wasn't for my (our) little girl, that the depression, pain, rejection etc.. that HE put me through was enough that I would of ended my life. I was blessed that my daughter is the one who needs me. Her mommy needs her. My daughter is my life. My savings grace, I am truely blessed by her. <BR>So no I don't think that you were "sarcastic". <P>ThornedRose<BR>Thanks for responding. What movie was that you saw? I would like to rent it. lolol<P>Susie7753<BR>Thanks for responding. I don't buy her crap. I could care less what she does with her life. Just stay away from mine and my family. She is a sorry pathedic piece of crap I can't stand her. She should do me the favor. Oh. I am sorry, that sounded evil. I am really not an evil person. But the anger and the pain get to me sometimes. <P>Oh thanks to all that responded. I can't tell you how much that helped me to vent. It felt sooooo.... good!<P>Take care my new friends. <BR>JB<P>

Suicide, huh. A real OW can do better then that. My WS's OW has told him at different times that she is dying from a bad heart (the result of too much alcohol, probably)...a bad liver (same cause), and a brain tumor....all trying to get him to see that she needs him to marry her so that he can take care of her.<P>She actually did threaten to kill herself and did a pretty good job when she crashed her car into a tree. Unfortunately she almost took her two children with her.<BR>Thankfully she was the only one seriously injuried.<P>These are "white knight" buttons for my husband but thankfully they have not worked that well....probably because he is selfish enough not to want to continue an involvement with someone who doesn't have a future of continued fun to offer him. That could have been a miscalulation on her part, you think???<P><BR>Faye

Looks to me like a big fat LB on her part. . he didn't go did he? He called the police (as anyone should in that situation). Let OW keep on going! You try to be as calm & wonderful as you can!