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Hey, don't go!<P>First, those friends probably are not "gone" at all...they just have not heard anything from you.<P>Second, there are folks here who care about you.<P>Third, even if your H is an idiot, life does go on. You are in a cra**y spot right now, but you will <B>not</B> be at this spot forever...this is just a low spot you have to go thru to get to the rest of your life. But, you can make it thru...<P>Hugs & Prayers--<P>Kathi
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Most of us have been where you are. We know how you feel and we know it's the worst you've ever felt before. We know! Please get to your doctor and get some anti-depression meds. Go to the emergency room at a hospital if you have too. Just do it! Seeking help is a sign of strength! I went through exactly your same feelings and I thought my world was ending, but friends helped me through and the anti-depression medicine really works. Please, don't delay.<P>WAT
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I don't think she meant giving up as in ending her life (at least I HOPE NOT), i think she means giving up as in giving up on her husband and the faith that things can be worked out between them. Is this what you are saying LostNco? Believe me we have all been where your heart is right now. There is nothing new about what you are feeling. WS have said they want divorce, aren't in love with us anymore..yadda, yadda, yadda. But if you continue to come here, you will see that it is the FOG talking. You have to give it some time and not give up so quickly....if i remember correctly this all just happened, right? Maybe you could make an appt. with Harley by yourself and then take it from there. Don't give up yet because you heard something that you didn't want to hear, you will most likely hear more, but like the vows say FOR BETTER AND FOR WORSE. This is the worse and it will be a bumpy ride, but if you want your marriage then don't call it quits just yet.
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Lostnoco<P>Been there. Felt like I was a dead walking person. Help is here and help is in the community, But YOU have to go get it. Nobody is going to come save you. It sucks but it is true. If you don't tell how much pain you are having, no one will know and no one will be able to supprt you.<P>Unfortuanately for me, my friends, didn't have really, really good friends here, just ran away. They don't want to take sides but they don't realize how much you are suffering. Your H probably did not tell the whole truth, they don't know how. They believe the lies themselves.<P>For me, I turned to the church, I called a counselor, I called support groupps, I reached out and it was very difficult for me but there are people, here and whereever you are, that want to help and be supportive.<P>But remember , right now, You must take care of YOURSELF. You are #1. Treat yourself, do little things. I don't know if kids are involved but if there are, you can't fall apart for their sake. They need a parent.<P>Where you are is death, living death. It takes time. time is hard but tomorrow will come and then the next day, etc.<P>Come read, cry, shout vent. We KNOW. We been there or are there.<P>Take care of yourself<P>Hopelessmom
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Hi,<P> I couldn't leave either. It does hurt. They all act like that, when in the middle of their A. I only had God, so give it to God and pray. Take your meds. You have a long ride ahead of you, you will need them. <P> Can your heart be crushed anymore?? Yes it can, be strong and Pray. <P> Lots of Hugs and Prayers!!<P>------------------<BR>Deb
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It's so wonderful to see the help that you all provided LostNco. I just read this post and thanks in part to your response to her pain..she's pulling out of it. Of course it will get bad again and again (dday 8 weeks ago for me) but God bless all of you for taking care of her and each other!<BR>
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Breaking,<P> We have all been there, its just our turn now. Thank you Lord for all the people on this site.<P> Lots of Hugs and Prayers<P>------------------<BR>Deb
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