I spent the week writting my plan B letter. I sent it to Jennifer and she said it was good, so now I just have to get up the guts to send it. I would post it here, but cant get it to copy for some reason, and I may have to delete it off the computer so H doesnt stumble across it. He was only on the computer for a few minutes last ime and managed to come across something else I thought I had placed in a inconsipcuos place.<P>He called me tonight. I managed to get him to ask me out to dinner tomorrow night. I just said I would like to see him to give him the gifts I got him in Mexico and he asked about dinner right away. I will also show him my pictures including the ones from last year from our vacation together. Now I just have to forget about my knoledge of his vacation with OW so I dont sabatoge myself.<P>My plan is to plan a my heart out for the next 3 weekends when he is off, and if he does not make a move towards getting back together, and if I know he is still talking to OW then to give him the plan B letter. Scarey stuff. I think it is for the best, but now I am getting cold feet. I am afraid he would sit on the fence forever given the chance tho so I think if he cant say anything in this time frame I will be ready.<P>Wish me luck.<BR>Lora

Good luck. Sounds like a good plan. Hope that you will not have to go to Plan B but if you do you can do it. Prayers

Lora-Shine for the next 3 weeks, remember how beautiful you are inside & out. . when you're looking at your vacation pictures with your H try to remember funny stories . . laugh & smile & touch him if he'll let you. Does he have copies of those pictures? If he'll let you, give him some. . so if you go to plan B he'll have something to look at & remember. Don't forget, he may not have had the wonderful vacation with OW that you think!! Good luck, keep us posted.

Lora - your logic is flawless. I've been thinking the same thing. It is scary, you're normal! Remember, you're calling the shots in this mode. Take command and once it's done, don't backpaddle or it'll be worse than not doing it at all.<P>Dave

Lora,<BR>I always liked having a plan of some sort. Yours sounds good. <P>Best wishes<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, gracious...think about these things." Phil 4:8

I tried to answer this this AM, but had a blackout while I was doing it... Now my plan is obsolete... see my new post! <BR>Thanks all for responding.<BR>Lora