OMG what a night!<P>H came over to take me to dinner and a movie, he held my hand, huged, kissed me. We came home after and he said he would like to move back in here. Then we get a phone call.. its OW and she asks for him apparently upset that he lied to her and told her he was going to his Moms... can we say Ahhh poor OW lied to how could he?<BR>So he tells me he is trying to end it, that they have been fighting and all, and there is a knock at the door... there she is, she tells me she wants to opologize to me all the while gazing into his eyes. I said the only thing I want is for her to leave us and our marrige alone, she said that will be hard. She said she is tired of all the lies, like he lied to her tonight.. can we say selfish? How about the 2 years of lies to me? I could care less if he lies to her.<P>So we talked some more, he agreed to std testing and counseling, he agreed to build a better marriage, he agreed to be honast and tell me about contact with her. He will move back in a month.<P>She did that little scene just for him over here, to show what a great gal she is... but he saw it as rather psyco... he mentioned restraining orders. I mentioned threats to tell her H, although she says she has told him all. <P>And you know what... ok, this is shallow, but she wasnt that cute or skinny... Weight is an issue with me.. but I think she weighs more then me Yaa!<P>He told me he loves me he is sorry he knows he has put me through alot of crap. I think I got a sincere Apology! <P>I know this is just the begining... but maybe I am finally on my way! <P>Thanks to all my friends here, that listened to me and kept me on tract.<BR>Lora<P>[This message has been edited by Lora (edited April 07, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by Lora (edited April 09, 2001).]

Lora,<P>What a great story. I love happy endings. You have hung there for so long. Of course you know the road will be long, bumby & hard but you can do it. Just make sure you have a plan. Prayers

Dear Lora,<P>Sounds like the beginning of a recovery story. Wishing you continued success. Wow to have to go through a confrontation like that and still come out smiling. I am proud of you. <P>Where do these OWs come from and where are their heads? Who do they think they are anyway? So brazen and all. <P>Doesn't matter, if the fog is lifting hope for clear sailing. <P>L.

Dear Lora,<P>Sounds like the beginning of a recovery story. Wishing you continued success. Wow to have to go through a confrontation like that and still come out smiling. I am proud of you. <P>Where do these OWs come from and where are their heads? Who do they think they are anyway? So brazen and all. <P>Doesn't matter, if the fog is lifting hope for clear sailing. <P>L.

YES, YES, YES!!!!!!!!!!!<P>WOW! Lap it all up, girl, then get down to work!!<P>You inspire me.<P>Dave

Great news Lora!!! Plan A, Plan A, Plan A, and no LBs.<BR>

YESSSSS!!!! I LOVE it!!! Sounds like you handled yourself like a lady when OW was at your house. . I'm sure it was b/c you felt so, so sorry for her . . how COULD he lie to her?? Things like this make me smile, remember my OW saying that she was going thru alot of sh)& b/c Jim was still seeing me? What a crock!<P>Just don't unbuckle yet. . if he's at all like Jim his feelings will still be kinda flip-floppy. . OW's been out of the picture for a month or so, of his own making, no real w/d I don't think, but he still gets weird sometimes. Plan A yourself to the MOON!<P>Go Lora, Go Lora!!! I am so, so happy for you!

Thanks Sing,<BR>Gosh, finally I feel like there is a chance here for a happy ending, or at least a moment of ah, affairs do end releif.<P>Orchid,<BR>I know, I could not beleive she was at the door, nor could my H I think. I can only hope she can keep up the LB to the max.<P>Dave,<BR>It does happen... proof. Took a long time though... a full 2years 2 mo for the affair, and 1 year 7 months since discovery.<P>Bitsy,<BR>I know, I am sort of prepared I hope, it was just so good to hear those 3 little words from him after this long...<BR>Lora

Hi Lora,<P> WOW, that is great!!......that is truly amazing. The Harley timeframe is right on in this case.....<P>I know you've been around and read everything but hang on for alot of ups and downs....... LU

Lora...<BR>You are my hero!!! 2+ years...OMG you must have the willpower of a saint. I am nominating you for the first female president. Nobody will be able to budge you in a battle of wills!!! Hang in there and don't let the bag lady manipulate the situation. Sounds like your H has gotten the vaccine for brain worms! LOL<P>Hugs to you!!!<BR>Mike

...a happy ending...<P> <P>How lovely!<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

Lu,<BR>I know, not off the rollercoaster yet, but at least now I have a few ups to remember. I hope I have the energy to continue, it does scare me that he could still go back and forth alot.<P>Mike,<BR>LOL, some might call me stubborn. Thank you for placing a positive spin on it. <BR>Lora

Lora,<BR>I think the month wait is a good idea, as long as he's not living with her? But nothing says you can't date , can you say "new underwear"?<P>And start the counseling as soon as possible, even before the move home. <P>Obviously "no contact" is going to take a bit to sink into her mind-set...so brace yourself, if he's honest about contact, accept his telling you with grace and graciousness--tougher sometimes than you would wish it to be.<P>He laid down some nice bricks for a foundation, help him to make them solid.<P><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, gracious...think about these things." Phil 4:8

Wow Wow Wow

Wonderful News. I want to cry with happiness for you.<BR>Patience is a virtue.<P>Keep us informed.<P>Hopelessmom

Great news Lora!!<P>I've followed your story and this sounds good. I'll be looking for you soon on the recovery board. Recovery is also a tough road but boy,,,is the rainbow at the end ever bright!!!

NB, lets just say a begining, haapy ending sounds too much like a jinx.<P>Lor, LOL great minds think alike, I went to work today , but managed to fit in shopping for unmentionables at luchtime.<P>FHL, wow is right<P>hopelessmom, Thanks for celebrating with me.<P>Nerlycrzy,<BR>I guess I can no longer deny that we are headed for recovery. Trying to continue to be patient tho.<BR>Lora

Hi Lora:<P>Long time since hairs in the drainpipe, huh. You've been through so much....I'm so happy for you...thank God your WS has enough sense to realize the mistake he's made and found his way home. This is way MB is all about and you are an inspiration to all of us. Good luck in recovery.<P>Faye

Lora,<P>What a sigh of relief for you. This has been such a long ordeal, but you've had amazing willpower. I'm very happy for you. This is an inspiration to all of us trying to save our marriages. Good luck in the coming days.

Buffy, I was thinking about ripping a few more of those hairs out last night. The nerve of that woman. I do beleive most of these affairs will end. It was just hard to remaine optimistic about my own and I just was not sure he would want to come back here.<P>Thanks Rick, I know how hopeful it can be to see any positive steps.<BR>Lora