Carina,<P>Soooooooo sorry! We were thinking you were just taking a BREAK from us! Which is maybe not too bad a suggestion...just some time to absorb life and discover its joys again. But the wrist...owwwww! <P>Thanks for your support...What we really want to help these two unprepared kids do is seriously consider adoption. It's a hard thing for them to even consider at this point, but they need to find out all the options and make an informed choice with their eyes wide open...We have a great social service at our disposal that are EXPERTS!!!! in adoption. I certainly hope they will at least find out what goes on there. It used to be that the only reason you gave up a baby was that the dad was going to be non-supportive. Now we understand that adoption can be the best thing for the baby and for the couple, not to mention the appreciative new parents. Had I known these thing 30 years ago, my relationship with X might have been drastically different, and I would not be having mixed emotions about her today. I don't want my D to have to repeat history. But in the end, the choice will be theirs. One thing I need to be cautious of is not to be overbearing in "what I think they need to do" when we are with them.<P>Carina...Get well soon!<P>Mayo <P>