My H said he was "going out" - his way of telling me he going to see OW -last night and probably wouldn't be home til morning. Instead, he came home right after work. Then told me he had "traded nights". Then he gets up in this a.m., makes breakfast, puts dinner in the oven and sets up a family game so we can all play when me and the kids get home from church. We play the game for a couple hours and he says when my daughter and i go to town we have to take my son along because he is leaving - to see OW. I get upset and he says lets go talk in the car. I told him that I would not do this much longer and that he needed to make a decision. I did this after reading Dr. Dobson's book "Love must be tough". Now I'm questioning whether I should have done that. It has been 6 weeks since d-day and I wonder if it was too soon for something like this. Has anyone else read this book and what was your opinion of it? It said that the timing was very important and I just don't know if this is the right time. <BR> He has been being good at home as far as the kids - much slower to anger, spending more time with son, etc. - except he sees or talks to OW everyday. Talks to her probably every day and sees her probably 2 x a week. He had told me a couple weeks ago that he was confused and didn't know what to do - that he was in deep with OW and here at home.<P>Just don't know if I made a big mistake by telling he needed to make a decision. I guess it kind of scares me that he may choose to leave, but I know that over time I will be okay and would move on. He had talked about plans to make 2 or 3 family trips and I am thinking maybe I should wait until after these trips to see if he will make the decision on his own without me forcing it.<P>Your opinions, please!<P>Darlene