Hi any help in this area would be great. My question is I am trying very hard to follow plan A beig thoughtful kind understanding. Sex is always because I start then we have sex. Should I wait for him to ask from now on I feel I am being to pushy. Thanks

I too am in plan A - SF is a high need of my H and I always have to initiate sex. He is in a no contact state since 3/5 and to the best of my knowledge has had no contact. We are counciling w/Jennifer of MB and she states that it is better for the person who has the lower SF need to be the initiator. She states that right now since he is in withdraw to initate sex and work at meeting his needs as long as I am comfortable with initating and he never turns me down. I am so it isnt a problem for me. <P>However, I would like to feel the feelings of appreciation, being thought of sexy and loved by my H that I used to get when he initated sex. I am praying that he will be restored fully to our marriage and his advances will return full force. <P>Maybe SKM could shed some light on this subject she is further down the path than I am.

I too am in the same situation.I think as long as they are receptive and don't refuse it is good to initiate sex as it meets an emotional need. I noticed the other day that when my H came to visit he locked the front door behind him so the kids couldn't come barging in on us. He did not initiate the sex but he must have been expecting something to lock the door like that!We can only chip away at this one peice at a time!