It has been 8 weeks since Dday and I am wondering about something which i need some feedback. I had an EM and hubby had several PA with "married and cheating wifes from the net" I found out about all of this in January after dealing with this internet addiction for 8 years (that is why I was confiding in someone else,, so sorry that I did) anyways,,, when it all came out in the open I have asked him questions about his PAs' but he hasnt asked me any about the EA? Just was wondering why that would be?<BR>

Just guesses...maybe guilt (ie, he might feel his transgressions went further, so doesn't feel comfortable grilling you), or maybe he just is one of those guys who does not like thinking about/discussing unpleasant things?<P>

Hi concerned 1,<P>I'm moving this up to the top for you...<P>Hey all, I told concerned to come over here from Other Topics... thought she could use more feedback!! C'mon...<P>By the way, I saw you answer on someone else's thread... excellent... keep reading and helping... it will help you!<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

I have begged my H for every piece of info. i can tolerate, but he has barely asked me anything (we are both wayward spouses). Maybe it's a guy thing? maybe it'll just take time.

This is a difficult question indeed-especially with us not knowing your H. But it is true-they either do not want to know anything or they want to know everything. One thing that my mind keeps saying to me is that maybe because you were in a EA he is comparing it to his PA?????? I suspect he might think he already has answers.........or maybe he isn't ready to face it yet. OR maybe he is afraid if he asks questions you will ask more questions of him.<P>I doubt this is of any help-but not knowing your H I am struggling to guess here. Look inside and figure out what you think the answer to your question is since you know him.<P>Good Luck!!!!!<P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."

Thanks everyone and it is kinda like Heartache said,,, it could be a number of things but I do know he has always been the kind who thinks if you sweep it under the rug,,,no one will notice,,, in other words he lives in denialville and his favorite motto is "dont start no sh*t will be no Sh*t" LOL... I think he is funny cause that kind of thinking is what has kept us from communicating at a deeper level... and with my EN being communications this spells trouble... :-)<BR>I have figured out that our problmes go way way way back,,, and it is a humongously long story,,, one day when I have time I will type it here ,,, I have read many others and I am facinated with the amount of stuff people go through...<BR>when all heck broke loose in January for us,,, it took me some time for me to realize why we were in the pickle we were in and it began 15 years ago when I was raped.... so sad when I think about being a survivor and how I thought I had it all figured out just to still have my marriage messed up because we both bottled up too much grief...<BR>like I said LOOOOOONNNNNNGGGGG story...<BR>thanks for listening..<BR>C1<P>ps,, did ya see the news about the patient in the Mayo clinic who had a worm in her brain? true story they removed it...she got it from eating a pork taco while vacationing in mexico years ago... it was not funny ,,, but at the same time it made me think of this site and the brain worms ya talk about!<BR>:-)