I posted yesterday under has this ever happened to anyone, so the summary of my story is there. My H has not spoken to OW since Sunday morning and he has avoided her since then. Well today (they work together) she didn't come to work and he realized that she was playing a stupid game. I told him that life was not a game and that he needed to stop playing games with her.<P>Low and behold she called him at work a little while ago to give him back something of his she had. Not everything just one thing (an ATM card that she knows he'll be needing). She told him she would beep him and he could meet her at the front door.<P>I asked if he was glad to hear from her and he said he didn't know if he was or not. Well now I know he could just be telling me that but H and I have learned to be pretty honest. Sometimes he's brutally honest with me. I told him that I hated seeing him go backwards again (H and OW went one other time without talking for 4 days)and that he should be strong and ask for his other things back.<P>Anyway, I thought I would report to some of the others who read my earlier post that I do see that "natural death" theory in action. H and OW can't seem to get along and I just keep on plan A'ing and showing my H what a catch I am.

Dear Singagain:<P>This is a hard time...both for you and WS...he's in withdrawal and confused....you're just barely hanging on and hoping for the best...and that's all you can do right now...Continue to Plan A and hope for the best....and regardless of what happens...there will be a tomorrow. <P>OW is obviously playing playing out her hand...it may be over but she hasn't accepted it yet...and he hasn't made it clear to her that it is over. She will do things like this until she realizes it is over or he makes her realize it is over. And he is too confused now to do what needs to be done to end it....but he may not be forever. You can either force the issue by asking that he write her a "no contact" letter or by just letting him ease out of the situation in his own fashion. Harley would recommend the letter I would think....but it's up to you. Neither one of these solutions is easy...but the letter is easier on you.<P><BR>Faye<BR>

The Harleys would also STRONGLY recommend that your H or the OW find another job. No contact is not possible if they work together.