Thank you for following me story and the encouragement. I came to US 6 years ago alone, and till today all my family and old time friends are still in Taiwan. I am almost totally alone to face the situation. You and some other member's encouragement has become the single source for me to look forward every day. At times when I feel want to give up, I will log on and hope to see a reply, that is my live line. It mean so so much for me, thank you all.<BR>It has been hard since I got home yesterday, my H is pretty firm on a D again, he will not listen to one word said again him and her. All my effort before seems gone. I have to start all aver again. I do think about give up this morning. Last night our dog got lost and he went out look for him at midnight(he found him though). After that I said I feel I mean less to him than a dog, because all he is trying to do is push my to leave. He get very upset with me and said not thing. I also told him to think the thing twice,there must be a reason why he and the OW is the only person that think the relationship is going to last. He said the only opinion counts is his and hers. <BR>I do not know what will happen after today, but I will do it one day at a time and take your kind word deep to my heart. By the way, my H just came in and saw me typing away. He said- I know you think this helps, but it make things worse for me. What should I do now?

I don't think you can do anything other than follow PlanA. Be kind to him when you can, even if you think it has no effect, it might. Let him know how much you care in a letter if not when talking to him. Hang in there!