You can read my story in the profiles. My H has had an EA/PA and sent letter of no contact 3/5. To the best of my knowledge hasnt had any contact and is participating in rebuilding the marriage by spending all his free time with me & kids, conseling w/Jennifer of MB, changed cell phone # and set up the house to ring on 2ndary non published number with old number ringing to answering machine. Both lines have caller id. The old number has private call rejection.<P>He would like to start using the old number once again. I am not opposed to the using the old number eventually. He has made significant changes, and her number hasnt shown on the caller id.<P>What is your opinion? Should we wait a few more months or put the old number back into the house? If we put the old number back into the house, I want to put both her number and her work # on call block service.<P>I think he would see it as a deposit into his love bank for me to agree to use the old number and I think he would agree to the call block.<P>Is the risk worth the deposit?

Since he's doing so wonderfully well... I think it would be "nice" if you allowed the old number back into the house. <P>Make sure you "enthusiastically (sp?) agree" as in the POJA -- and never throw it back at him if the OW *does* call -- as in, "See, I told you we shouldn't have done it"...<P>If you can be sure you won't do that, I think you should go ahead and show him that he is restoring the trust in your mind.<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

I beleive in many places you can put a call block on a specific number. Block her number from calling your phone. I think it might be a good compromise to do that. <P>I am considering those options myself.<BR>Lora

If all the right signs are in place, then I believe the risk is probably worth the deposit. The bottom line is that if two people really want to have contact badly enough, they will find a way around the boundaries that are set. So there is always a small risk. But I believe in weighing all the evidence and taking small risks as you move through the healing process.....you'll know on some level if you are moving too quickly.<P>Just keep it honest between you and your husband. Let him know what your fears are and work with him to find a comfortable compromise that works for both of you. <P>------------------<BR>"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31