Hi to all my friends!<BR>As the meetings with my lawyer become more frequent, and the divorce proceedings move forward, my wife continues to be under the influence of the Maine Brain Worm. This is an affliction usually reserved for the Maine Moose, and it makes them do stupid and irrational things. <P>The week before Easter my wife "informed" me that she would like to come to the house at 6:30 Sunday morning and see the kids get their Easter baskets. I said 6:30??? Are you FU$#@%$ nuts??? SHe replied no...I want to take S to 7:30 mass. I reluctantly agreed...it was my weekend with the kids but figured this would be a good chance to maybe make some deposits!<P>She showed up at 6:30 dressed in sweats and the kids were still in bed. I said you don't look dressed for church? Her reply...oh...I'm not going, it will be too crowded. So she continues with ...I think I'll just hang around for a while and spend some more time with the kids. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH...THis is from a woman who wants 50-50 custody but doesn't get the fact that you actually have to have the kids for that to be effective. THey have slept at my house 71 out of the last 89 nights.<P>Anyway...I said that the kids were with me this weekend, and she was the one who wanted out of the marriage. This is one of the consequences of your decisions. The kids are with me, and you shouldn't be here, Especially at 6:30 AM!<P>She really doesn't get it. She thinks that she can go play Hide and Peek with boytoy and still have everything the same at home. <P>Geez...I can't believe I am being so unreasonable!! I must need help!<P>Anyway...she stayed for awhile, and I got the kids ready, ignored her and then said that we needed to leave as we were going to my parents house for dinner.<P>End of a beautiful day!!<P>Mike<P>------------------<BR>the probability of someone watching you...is directly proportional to the stupidity of your actions

Mike...<P>Keep the records...<BR>...71 of 89 is a good one!<P>Love you kids...<BR>Pray for your W.<P> <P>Jim

Mike,<P>I was thinking about you the other day as the last we heard from you was after the first court date.<P>Funny how the STBX suddenly finds all sorts of reasons to just hang around. My STBX is always showing up and sorta hanging around. I usually allow him to stay and I leave to run errands or something. <P>He also made a point of telling me how tired he has been lately and how he goes to bed early every night. Not out and about every night like he had been for the past few months. <P>Well gee, sorry the swinging single life has suddenly become so tiring!! BOOO HOOO. What do you think I feel like at the end of the single mom day!<P>Our STBX's really have a lot of nerve thinking that they can have the free life but just pop in back at home whenever the mood strikes. As soon as STBXH has a place here in town I think I will put my foot down about his coming here.<P>Sounds like you are being very strong through all of this.<P>Take Care

Mike,<BR>Having been through it, all I can say is draw the line and don't step over it. If she's supposed to have the kids more often...take them over there and make her have them. This comes from someone whos ex hasn't seen the kids but 33 days in the last 11 years!!!! I know this feels ok now, but trust me, you'll come to the point where you need the break and the kids will need their mom, no matter how defective a wife she may have been.<P>And, believe me, she does get it. She does get to "play hide and seek ect.<P>Decide what you can accept and stick to it.<BR>Sorry to sound so stern.<BR>T

Hi all,<BR>NSR...<BR>I thought that 71-89 was a great score. If I were shooting free throws, I would be quite happy with that! I guess the free nights give her time to play with her new friend!<P>Hopeless...<BR>It's amazing how she wants to be here at her own convenience. Probably boytoy was spending time with his kids and she had nowhere else to go. She wants to have the family life and hang out with her kids (which is good) but doesn't understand that holidays and such can't be like that anymore. I don't want her around if she is going to playing with her "friend". So consequences of decisions need to be realized. I am just trying to figure out how to do that and not hurt the kids.<P>Twyla....I don't think you were being stern...just speaking the truth! The truth sucks...but it is time for her to realize that the truth isn't always just her version!<P>Mike<P><P>------------------<BR>the probability of someone watching you...is directly proportional to the stupidity of your actions

Hey Mike,<P>Can you do or would you do a PLan B? I mean if you go to that, she wouldn't be coming to your house whenever she wants. Keep keeping track of how little she has the kids, maybe you get custody.<P>Thinking about you. sing

Mike - continue keeping an accurate score. If the worst happens and your divorce goes through, you have a good argument for full custody.<P>Dave