Hello,<P> I haven't heard from you in awhile, and I was wondering how you are doing? Did you get sucked up by the "aliens" also? Ha Ha<P>------------------<BR>Deb

Hey Deb...<BR>Thanks for caring. The "alien"(H) is still here but the OW is also very much in the picture. I read this site often, but feel unqualified to respond. Per my snooping, H is still much confused. Guess who comes to the rescue with all her extoroidinary insights? Like, you must think of yourself and you can not make another person stronger by enableing them. She really is an expert at this.<P>Easter dinner here with friends. H brought me flowers. First to come, last to leave. He does struggle with this situation ... Yet, he still has his head (pants) in the neder lands. But never fear OW is there with a quick fix to his guilt.<P>Deb, have read some of your posts. Did not realize you were unhappy, even with your H back. Wonder if it is the disrespect asspect that leaves you in such a state. <P>God willing, we just may be able to let the past be past. But never allow the disrespect for our feelings to be compromised. (Something I have done for years, just to keep the peace}. Think that it has brought me to this current situation.<P>Take care dear, hugs and prayers to you.<P>

Good,<P> You haven't left the site. Sounds good H bringing flowers and staying late! At least he is thinking!<P> I have the usual roller coater as everyone else. I do tend to get caught up in other peoples pain, so I guess I get angry.<P> I really let him have it last week!!! Boy was I rotton and mean. Called him an A%^$#@&%, cheat, you name it. He just took it. He did not even yell back!! I even said I was going to have an A, just so he would know how I felt.<P> The thing is he doesn't know. He has not been there. I had my anti deps refilled though, and they help.<P> Their are really a lot of smart people here to help you, all you have to do is post. I am not one of them, mostly I am a smart alec.<P> Sounds like your doing well though. Yes it is very disrespectful treatment. I really did not do anything to the man. I guess he was just away from home to long.<P> Hugs and Prayers!!<BR><P>------------------<BR>Deb