The woman that I'm pretty sure came on here as "Flygirl" was let go yesterday. The word through the grapevine here at work was that she had an attendance problem and an attitude problem towards some of her other coworkers in her group (duh, you think? ) The only people at my job who knew about the incidents here on MB were my boss, and her supervisor - but nothing could be done because we couldn't 100% prove it was her. But I digress - she is no longer with the company, so I can feel a little more comfortable posting my updates again.<P>I know that a lot of you saw my wonderful encounter with the OW about a month or so ago. Well, the reason that I triggered out more than I should have was because I kind of had another D-Day. In late Feb, I discovered that my H had started using the Internet to contact other women. He had enrolled in Singles sites, became a member of a club called "Sex on the Side", a site for married people looking for discreet affairs, and had gotten an e-mail account on "Sexmail". He posted on there as "Steelydreamy" (gag). I discovered this in the embryo stages luckily - he had one e-mail from a woman he'd contacted, and she was asking for a pic. <P>Upon discovery, I flew off the handle. I called him every name in the book, left my house, and started to drive to a local bar with every intention of picking a guy up and sleeping with him. I'd had it - I wanted him to know how it felt. But as fate would have it, I'd left my ID at the bank that morning when I went to cash my check - no ID, no entry, so I ended up going home.<P>He says that he just wanted to make friends, that he was just curious about the sites, etc (you know, the usual excuses). I unloaded on him some more, and locked myself in the spare bedroom. He was in tears when I left...only the second time I've heard him cry since I've known him. I was too angry to care though. <P>He then told me to change the passwords and eliminate his accounts so that the problem would be eliminated, which I did. I even went to the sites he registered with (Sex on the Side and the Singles sites), and made a post that said something like, "To Anybody Who May Have Received a Post From 'Steelydreamy' - this young man is actually my 13-year-old son. He has some mental issues, and I will be getting him help very soon. Please do not feed into his delusion by responding to his posts. Thank you." He hasn't been online since, and we've been "okay" for the most part.<P>Leilana was a <B>huge</B> help to me with that (thank you, thank you, thank you!) via e-mail when I was unable to post anything "too personal" here. Thanks again for all of your help, hon!<P>The ex from San Diego made her usual holiday/birthday call yesterday...H's birthday was Easter Sunday. We weren't home at the time, but she left a message on the answering machine. I'm still not sure how to handle this one. I'm not comfortable with them being in contact after the whole "I'll always love you" thing and learning that she has some sort of problem with me (I think that stems from my H saying not-so-nice things about me around A time). <P>Other than that, not much is new. My novel is coming along very nicely, unfortunately, my most creative moments are while I'm supposed to be working! My creative writing college course begins next Thursday, so I'm sure that will help. I'm playing softball for my company now, and I love it. I feel like I'm getting parts of myself back that I had lost track of over the years. I don't believe deep down that I'm this nasty, jealous, vindictive person that has been prominent in my relationship over the past two years...but at times, I don't know who I really am anymore. Does anybody else have that problem? It's frustrating.<P>Anyway, there it is, my update for the year. I hope to have a better one for y'all in 3 months! <P>

<B> "To Anybody Who May Have Received a Post From 'Steelydreamy' - this young man is actually my 13-year-old son. He has some mental issues, and I will be getting him help very soon. Please do not feed into his delusion by responding to his posts. Thank you." He hasn't been online since, and we've been "okay" for the most part. </B><P>Oh my gosh <B> Carolina Belle </B> I am ROFLMBO at that , it is too good ! If I ever catch Mike getting anymore of those swingers newsgroups emails again I will use that, with your kind permission ! I want to be you when I grow up.<P>Congrats on losing your pain in the neck btw.<P>------------------<BR>Deb<P>Hepatitis C, Please educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In" TARGET=_blank>http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In</A> memory of a very dear friend <A HREF="http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp" TARGET=_blank>http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp</A>

Cb,<P>Glad that "Flygirl" is no longer a throne in your flesh at work.<P>Sorry for the other ddays but I love how you handled it. Wish it work for my 17 yr Son. <P>You always bring a smile to my face. Can't wait to read your novel. <P>sing

CB,<P>I was wondering what happened to you. I scrolled down the whole page the other day looking for a post from you. I somehow missed the whole "flygirl" thing. I'm glad to hear that you have landed on your feet once again. <P>I hope your H gets a clue about having a real life SOON! <BR>Your writing is always so creative and I am sure that your novel will be a great read. I'll be the first one in line at your book signing when you get down to Georgia.<P>Glad to see your back.<P>cleo

Hi CB,<P>Ah, sweet justice, eh? <P>Nice to see ya!!<P>Just dropped by to say HI and to wish you a VERY GOOD NEXT THREE MONTHS!! <P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

Hey there, girl! Glad to hear that you are doing so well and taking care of yourself these days! T is gone this week, so let me know if you'll have some time and I'll give you a call.<P>Not much new here except for things are moving ahead on the new job thing.....

CB!<P>Aw shucks! <P>You're so sweet. I don't often come to GEII (well, I have more recently) and I saw that Flygirl post rather late in it's entirety :mad and saw only your deleted posting, sorry I missed it!). It was very upsetting and would have been only too easy for me to join in the verbal pummelling of her but instead I (barely) managed to restrain myself till I knew more about what was going on. And now I know. <P>Ew! What a loser! Good riddance.<P>You know, we can't restrict satanic people like that from infiltrating the forum. If/when she returns or other known destructive people like her we should have a standardized response for such them. Otherwise some of us might get just get triggered and whipped to a frenzy which is exactly what these clinging OP's or sick people want. <P>I'm so glad you posted your update, CB. Especially when you shared that response you gave to the internet sex site! It is THE BEST comeback I've ever heard! A timeless classic! <P> Everyone else here could sure benefit from your incredible brand of humor, Hon. Don't stay away too long. <P>Take care, CB. And God bless!<P>Luv ya!<P>L <P> <p>[This message has been edited by Leilana (edited April 19, 2001).]

CB,<P>Hey, sometimes bad things happen to bad people! I'm glad that thorn is no longer in your side. Her being fired reminds me of a firing that I'm glad for.<P>My wife's A was with someone at her workplace. The amount of time they were spending together was noticed and his supervisor had a talk with him. When he told her he couldn't hang with her as much she became upset and had a discussion with the supervisor.<P>She wouldn't quit after D-Day but not long thereafter was fired! I snooped and found out where OM lived. Checking on him a little later I found out that he, an employee for over a decade, had also been fired! I wonder why... .<P>Just shows that sometimes things do work out if we can wait long enough. So I'm sorry to hear about the "other D-Day", but his tears make me hopeful that the next update "in 3 months" from you will prove the same point. Hopefully your continued work on you and on your relationship will prove more fruitful by then.<P>Best wishes,<P>Steve<p>[This message has been edited by StillHers (edited April 19, 2001).]