Last night H and I went to see priest for the first time together we had a wonderful weekend and I told the priest I felt a little positive. Then he turned to my H and my H said I don't know I feel like I need some time off, he has been sying this on and off since d day in Feb. The priest told him that I need to be involved in this and where will he go and for how long again he answered I don't know I don't have anywhere to go the priest gave him options he said he has no answers I got all bent out of shape and told him I am here for you how can I help you again I don't know our session ended with the priest telling him when he had an answer to call him for a appointment, because he can not stay in this fog much longer it is creating to much anger between the two of us and that my H needs to let me know what he needs for me to do at this point good or bad. My question do you think it was right for the priest to dismiss him like that and tell him to call for a appointment when he has some answers isn't the priest suppossed to help him with his pain and where does that leave me I just want to know if we are both working at resolving things not just me and his answer is I don't know. What should I do.<BR>If any one can please help! Oh by the way we have both been seeing the priest on our own sice Feb.

I feel like you should seek some other counseling. The priest has made it too easy for him not to do anything. My husband said many of the same things about not knowing, etc. In fact, they DON'T know, and they need help from a professional to sort things out in their minds. My heart goes out to you. I've been there myself.

I would suggest counseling. Separate for you and for H. Maybe joint counseling, too if H is willing. <P>My W (WS) is also confused at this point and we are seeing separate counselors. It does help to have someone to talek to and confide in. For both of you.<P>So far my W has not agreed to the joint counseling yet--says she can't 'til she is 100% committed to our marriage.<BR>I am hoping that is soon. Int hemeantime th eindividual counselign with a qualified professional will do you a world of good.<P><BR> <P>

JAnie<BR>Thank you for your advice, I was thinking along those lines,now to find a good one and talk my H into going back.<BR>Please pray for me. Thank you again I am so grateful for any help I get on MB.<BR>PHK

Elad,<BR>Thanks I just need support now and I read some of your posts and my prayers are with you. God Bless you are in my prayers.<BR>PHK

Not that I am in the position to give advice right now - I just found out 5 weeks ago my husband is having an affair or hopefully WAS having an affair - we are going to the same counselor but separately. I have found this helpful because she is talking to both of us and now knows both of us but we meet separately. Starting next week we both are going to go separately once a week and then together once a week. I hope it goes good. I am going to use this time to vent and ask any questions so it will be in a controlled environment and he won't be as defensive. I think my counselor is a good one. I wish someone would just tell him to make this right and to do whatever it takes but she is working on him and what made all this arise in the first place. Good luck!