Remember the classic Abbott & Costello's "Who's on 1st?"<P>Who's on 1st, What's on 2nd and I don't know is on 3rd base.<P>That 3rd base line: "I don't know". Never making it home. I thought about this, this evening after I had told H that I no longer want to hear "I don't know" and "what if" statements from him any longer. <P>Now I know why. Looking at that classic act, I don't know was on 3rd base, he never got home and he prevented anyone else from going home. Was "I don't care" the shortstop? I think so. As long as those two are out there playing in the lives of our spouses, our spouses will never return fully to our homes and hearts...... jsut my thought for today.<P>L.<P><BR>

Orchid,<P> That is funny!! What about " I don't remember" or "I forgot" Ha Ha<P> I have been keeping up with your story and you are doing quite well!<P><BR> Hugs And Prayers!<P>------------------<BR>Deb

Orchid - wasn't the pitcher Tomorrow or Yesterday? I appreciate your parallels.<P>WAT

Ok, I am adding to this, how about adding a coach that is next to I don't know on 3rd called: "What if?" <P>This is a favorite line with WS. Between I don't know and what if, H can go from a definite, I will come home, drop OW and make all the required changes to have 2 conversations with OW (for over 2 hours) to a definite 'maybe' using the ever popular phrases I don't know and what if. <P>OW is such a foul influence. Poor Abbott and Costello, I am now using one of my favorite comedians to vent my anger at OW for her rotten influence on H. You know what? H thinks I am wrong for being angry at OW for her influence on him. Yep, back pedaled back to the fog again. All this back pedaling is going to lead to a crash someday. Hm.... <P>Yesterday, I took my son, his cousin and an aunt to SF and went to a museum, while in the city we see the famous SF FOG rolling in. The heavy midst soon turned to rain. That is how I felt. H's fog is raining on my parade. OW pulls H into the fog. I feel they are both responsible for raining on my parade. Oh boy another parallel! <P>L.<P>

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Orchid:<BR>[B]Ok, I am adding to this, how about adding a coach that is next to I don't know on 3rd called: "What if?" <P>Your paralells/metaphores are great!<BR>This may be getting way out of the prinicples we ascribe to as Christians and on this board, but do you know much about this OW -- perhaps you should think of some return warfare tactics -- She's certained messed with your mind & life enough!<P>I applaud your attitude with this! It seems you're holding this together really well & keeping a sense of humar -- way to go!<BR>HH<BR>

Hi HH,<P>This is a stress reliever for me. If I can relate my anger points to something a bit more comical, it helps keep it in better perspective. Especially since I am being constantly remind (not necessarily a negative thing) that I am not in control of others actions (H & ow in particular). <P>As far as knowing more about OW. Oh.... I know a lot. I am sure more than she wants me to know. OW may have PMS issues, I have felt the effects monthly. Women know that kind of thing. H thinks I am making it up. There is more but I don't really want to go into this right now. Safe to say, she has no right to intrude on my life but since she has all is fair in love and war. Retaliation is not my game. I don't play politics or vengenance well. <P>I believe that vengenance belongs to the one who can dispense it with grace and perfection. I am only human and have not perfected that yet. Until then I leave that portion of dealing with OW up to God. What ideas I do get as a result are for me to work out as long as I am legal (adhere to Cesar's laws) and keep God's principles in the forefront. <P>H tries to say that OW attacks me because (he claims)(I attacked OW with the e-mails written way back when (in Dec and beginning of Jan - none since then). I have reread those e-mails and do not see it the same way as he does. I am not sorry for what I wrote since it is still accurate to this day. I told H that anyone who invades my family deserves to be informed of how their actions are viewed. If OW can't handle the heat, then don't play with the fire. <BR>These are words, would she like to see action? Well, this OW lives in an e-mail and did not like being called on the carpet using her favorite tool to control people. Now I had her # (e-mail address/phone number) and oh... she did not like her supposed 'privacy' being invaded. Hmm.... last I check there are disclosures out there about e-mails and their servers being subject to access by others. So if your e-mail address is out there it is like finding a phone number in a phone book. <P>What about invading my home, wrecking my family, causing me untold grief and strife, putting financial, emotional and mental hardship on me? Oh... OW is not responsible for that? Only H? Hm..... Well, if this is a community property state where all in a marriage share 'everything' then I want the piece that H got from OW that OW got from her H also. Sound fair??!?!!? Funny they don't see it that way. Oh well, the fog must be rolling in again. <P>Gotta go. Thanks for keeping me in line with the funnies. It is a lot easier to handle things this way. <P>Have a nice day. <BR>L. <P>