Although not legally separated, H and I are living in separate residences. We are in the recovery stage for our marriage, as we have both agreed that we want to take the time to work things out.<P>Our relationship has gradually gotten better in recent weeks. We talk more, and go out together more (one of H's EN's).<P>Tonight was the first time I went to his new place. I was helping him with ideas on where to put what and so on. The conversation continued about his apartment, but it grew into talking about our plans for the future. These "plans" were ones that would come into force should things NOT work out between us.<P>So here lies my question: is talking positively about a future WITHOUT each other a love buster? Would we be better off sticking to the conversations on WHEN we move back in together and what OUR plans will be.. TOGETHER?<P>Karen

Karen...<P>You're married...<P>Talk about the future of being married...<BR>...not being separated.<P> <P>Jim

Karen, I agree with Jim, but that said, a lovebuster is what your H determines it to be. If you can diplomatically NOT talk about a separate future, it's not a LB if it doesn't withdraw love units from his bank. Just tread lightly. It sounds like you have a high potential for recovery if he's really committed to the marriage. Beware of deception.<P>WAT