<BR>H was in last Saturday and stopped by to see son. I had a male friend over helping me do a few things (we are just friends), H basically told friend to leave (but he is with OW). Then informed me that he had filed. I said for what, he stated for divorce. Said I should have gotten the papers already.<P>Then he states that he needs to end the marriage, so that we can put this chapter behind us and start a new relationship. I said as what, he said to start dating again. WHAT!!!!!!! He is mental with his thinking. Divorce to start dating? He said that it was too late to work on our marriage.<P>Asked him if he would go see our Pastor, he agreed, Why if the marriage is over.<P>Says son is his priority, but did not come over on Easter or call.<P>What a wacko..... Does any of this make sense to anybody. He told my neigbor that he was flying out to go back to his out of state job first thing Sunday. I just obtained information that he was in town from Friday morning until Monday night and only spent two hours with son on Saturday. Where are his priorities<P>

Mische - of course it doesn't make sense! Most of us here make the same mistake over and over - we to try to rationally understand irrational behavior. We cannot reason with alcoholics, drug addicts, or affairees. Your frustration is normal for your painful situation and all faithful spouses certainly experience it.<P>Come here to vent and let us be part of your support. We will understand.<P>WAT