It is now just over a year since h left to live with OW. When I look back over the past year and awful lot has happened. I have moved to a new area, got a new job and started studying part time. Thing have moved on in so many ways but I still miss my h so much that it hurts.<P>I have been in plan A since Sept and have really managed to keep LB in a minimum maybe 2 at most but h shows no signs of changing his mind. He phones every night to speak to the children and always asks if I want to speak to him - I only speak if I have something to say about kids. His mother says that he is stressed out and until he deals with this he cannot deal with anything. She does not see any future for our marriage at all.<P>I really am not sure what to do. Do I keep plodding on or am I best to close the door. My two youngest children see their dad but my oldest will have nothing to do with him.<P>Any input would be very helpful.<P>Love & prayers <P>A<p>[This message has been edited by annie h (edited April 23, 2001).]

I would keep up Plan A until you feel yourself losing the love you have for your H. Only you know how long that can last. When you feel that love ebbing, I would go to a Plan B. Plan B is for you and your sanity. You are not alone. Keep posting. <p>[This message has been edited by Janie (edited April 23, 2001).]

Janie<P>Thanks for the advice. I know that you are right but sometimes it is really hard to remain positive when you are getting nothing back.<P>Love & Prayers<P>A