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Another thing, I think its important that she knows that I know he came to visit last month (just found out this morning). Should I ask her what the XYZ Hotel is like, or is that wrong. I want her to know that even though I know, I am stil trying to make this work. I also don't want her to think she got away with something. Is this too childish. I really just want my wife back!
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In her eyes she really sees that she is doing nothing wrong. and i'm sure as most WS's do, she thinks that the OM is the greatest guy that ever walked the planet. I hate to tell you that, but the reality is that she probally thinks that. Any attempts you make at attacking what she is doing or saying bad things about the OM will cause her to cling tighter to him. Please try not to bring up things. You will really only make it worse for you. <P>Think about it. what are you going to say if she tells you "yes i did meet him in a hotel room" ??? Never ask a question that you already know the answer too. Just work on being the man she wants. And if you find that she man she want is too impossible to be, then be the man YOU have always wanted to be.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by sadandconfused:<BR><B>Should I ask her what the XYZ Hotel is like?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Rent a room there, take her out to eat, then to the hotel for an hour! TAKE BACK THAT HOTEL!<P>Nah. Better wait a few months, then take her there. Reclaiming locations can be fun.<P>Bama<P>
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There can be healthy debate regarding the revealing of your evidence. My opinion is to collect enough to make it undeniable before you lay it out. The problem is that they still will deny it. I caught my wife and OM in a physical enbrace in an airport. I didn't interupt them. Later I asked my wife why she wasn't at work that morning.<P>Her: I was.<BR>Me: Oh? You didn't go to the airport?<BR>Her: NO!<BR>Me: You didn't meet <OM> at BWI?<BR>Her: NO!<BR>Me: You didn't meet <OM> at BWI getting off USAir flight <#> from Cincinnati at gate C34 at 8:50 am and you didn't stop at the bottom of the escalator to hug and kiss?<BR>Her: NO! It didn't happen!!<P>See?<P>WAT
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