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#910390 04/25/01 01:37 PM
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I just got off the phone with my sister-in-law. I told her that despite my email from earlier in the week, I know longer think that our marriage problems are all my fault. She said that she knew, even with the email. She said my W is being a B**ch and being very manipulative. She said that my W is going to lose her whole family over this. <P>Somehow I felt better. Not because she's going to get hers. But that her sister believes me.

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S&C - family members can be your most important support group. Just be careful to not recruit them to try to convince your W to come clean. She will blame you for intruding. If they do it on their own, just make sure they understand you didn't ask them to do it, but thank them.<P>WAT

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Sadandconfused,<BR> In my situation, where my W had an EA over the internet (which has been know for only 2 weeks now), my W's family actually made it more difficult. My W became very upset with me that I told her father as much as I did when I was being questioned. This is even though she is the one that broke the ice on the subject to them.<BR> My advice then is just to be careful. If you go to far in using the rest of the family it might allienate your W even more. Just the right amount and the family could be one of your strongest allies.<P>------------------<BR>QAEng<BR>"What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Matthew 19:6.

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S&C - let me add that no matter what, don't use your SIL's opinion in conversastions/arguments with your W. Don't even mention it. She'll find out eventually.<P>WAT


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