Just curious about......sorry all

I don't know what others think, but I use it to refer to a whole bunch of us that had DD in 1999, and stopped posting but kept lurking in 2000 or 2001..<P>or maybe we are just the ones with bags under our eyes and dents in our knees from praying,<P>don't know for sure!<P>lizzie

I dunno, when you are dealing with the pain of infidelity, days seem like years....<P>As soon as your name says member instead of junior member?

When I wrote the thread to the "old-timers" it was to a group of us who went through the whole process together, beginning in about 1999. <P>Things were different then. There were no seperations of forums, and we all were madly posting all the time! For a short time, back then, we had few new people joining, and it seemed like quite a few successes in the making... then the divorced board came to be, as well as Just Found Out, Plan A and B, and several others... and the group of us who had been fighting to save our marriages together seemed to split up onto the other boards. <P>I missed the family feeling that we used to have, with an emphesis on the Harley principles... which is why I wrote the thread.<P>I hope this answers your questions... and I'm very sorry if you (or anyone else) felt left out.

<B>OnceBetrayed - </B> Basically, the others have given you the answer. There are several people that came here before 1999. They are the "really old-timers". Like Sheryl said, however, there were a lot of us who came on board during 1999 and a whole lot of us are still here in one frequency or another.<P>A lot of us really bonded during our struggles and became "cyber" and actual friends. I think Sheryl is right on about the board not being split up then. I try to read the other boards as often as I can, but not as often as GQII. There are a lot of people on the "Plan A/B" board who have been around a long time, but I really don't know them well because I am more frequently here.<P>It also goes back, I think, to something I've posted about a couple of times and was one of the primary subjects of one of Sheryl's threads. Almost all of us who came on board in 1999 were dedicated to marriage and to doing the utmost to preserve a potentially good marriage. We kept each other trying even when we didn't want to. Today, there is too much impatience and a "throw the bum out" mentality. It's hard to form hard, serious bonds with people in those situations.<P>There have been some spectacular successes from the "Class of 1999". And you know, some of those successes occurred when the marriage ultimately failed. I think Terri(for example) was here earlier than 1999, but I consider her a rousing "success" even though her marriage wasn't. She is a different person than she was even in 1999 when I came to the board. Also in Terri's category are NSR, Chris, WilliamJ, Mitzi, Jamie-Lee, Roll Me Away and a host of others.<P>Don't worry, someday you, too, will be an "old-timer".<P>--DeWayne--<P>I never should have "named names" as examples. I'm gonna leave someone out who I should have remembered. Dang!!!!<p>[This message has been edited by Heartpain (edited April 29, 2001).]