I am on plan-A for two month now. My WH still want to be the OW and thinking about moving out. Last night he told me Thursday he is going to airport to pick her up( she went for vacation last week) and after that he is going to her place. As all of you out there know how much that hurts me.<BR>I am doing a excellent plan-A as far as I can tell. But, I just can not stand that he goes to her bed and comes home to me after that. What should I do? I think there must be some of you are/were facing the same thing as I do. Should I keep doing my plan and let him goes to her when he wants. Should I try to stop him ? He did promise me today that he is going to pick her up only. But I do not think he will go for it ever time when he want sex from her( by the way, our sex is better than ever after the D-day). I can not stop him to do that for long. I think the main question will be- Will it stop him from coming back to me, if they have sex or not? He does tell me that -it not about sex.<BR>Since they work together there is no way I can stop them contact each other at work. How about try to stop the P contact? Will it help ?

Work the Plan A with a time frame in mind. If when that time has elapsed and no progress has been made towards no contact with OW, move to Plan B. He can not and will not change if there is no reason to. He has the best of both worlds right now. Express to him your discomfort and explain to him what will happen if he continues to travel this road. Of course be prepared to act on this and be prepared fro the drain emotionally it will cause. Then again you're in a drain now so...<P>Good Luck and God Bless<P>------------------<BR>1Co:2:4: And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of man's wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power:<BR>1Co:2:5: That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.

trying - a time frame for Plan A? Yes, but not before you demonstrate your improvements. I have a different understanding than Mr. Moyers.<P>Plan A is about improving yourself. Go to Plan B when you need to protect what's left in your bank - NOT to try to force a change in your H. Be wary of handing out ultimatums. You might want to review the Plan A/Plan B material before you change anything, or get advice from the Harleys.<P>WAT

thanks for your reply, <BR>Reviewing my plan-A in past 2 monthes, things are getting a little better. My WH told me that now he is living day by day and never know what he is going to do the next day( he was 100% sure about a D 2 monthes ago). When I talk to him about our possible future together, he will look at the wall and think(But I do not want to- was what he will said 2 monthes ago). <BR>I understand that plan-A has a time frame and the focus is myself improvment. But, is there any body can keep Aing and knowing that your WS is sleeping at the OP's bed ?<BR>Should I just keep plan-Aing with a blind-fold on ?