Well, folks, I'm finally purging some of the garbage in our house. H slept with OW in our bed, and I've purchased a new comforter and sheets, finally. It was kind of a ridiculous process---I bought one last year, never put it on the bed because I said I wouldn't until the affair was over, returned it because he never acted like he liked it nor ended the affair. This past weekend, we were looking at catalogs and he said that he liked the comforter that I had originally gotten and returned, and why didn't I go get it. ARGH! So, anyway, I did, and I've just put it on our bed. <P>It feels really good to get rid of some of the garbage---now, what do I do with the old stuff. I was thinking of having a bonfire and roasting hot dogs over the fire. A weenie roast of sorts.....<P>OR, I was also thinking I could pack them up and send them to OW. If she thinks she needs a piece of my H so bad, then she can have the sheets that she soiled with her bodily fluids.<P>Any other good ideas? I hate to just throw them in the trash. I would like something a little more ceremonial.....<P>

Oh, I like the burning idea...<P>I wouldn't let ex bring the couch he slept with her on into the house and the poor thing rotted in the rain, sleet, sun and finally was put out with a free sign on it...someone did take it. And the towels she dried off with - trash.<P>But I like the burning idea...<P>Of course, you *could* do something like run over them with your car...

Donate them to a shelter. d2k

Donate them to Salvation Army.<P>Purging feels so good, doesn't it? Purging things AND emotions.

But she wanted something ceremonial... donating them is totally the *right* thing to do... but she needs true PURGING!!!

J - Before I read your post - and reacting just to the title - I thought, BURN 'EM!!!!!!!! Then when I read about the weenie roast, I laughed so hard I thought I was gonna pee in my pants!!! That was the best laugh I've had in months!!!!<P>Thanks, Dave

Hey, I sold my car when I found out they'd screwed in it. And that car was my baby - a 1996 cherry-red Camaro V-6 with all the trimmings. He couldn't f-her in his P.O.S. 1979 Mustang Penismobile (you know, the old cars that guys get that they try to remodel, but no matter what, they still look like rust buckets?) - because that would reveal what a scrub he is! Sorry hon, this was a little bit of a trigger...<P>Anyway, I'm a big fan of burning. Maybe you can put the blue-toenail polish picture in there as well! Then put the ashes in an urn, send it to the OW so that she figures out just how dead their relationship is!

When I read the subject title I like Wat thought burn baby burn & then read about the roast I laughed so hard I almost fell out of the chair.<P>But CB made me laugh even harder, I love the idea of putting the ashes in an urn & sending them to the OW. <P>Back to the wennie roast, maybe 5 yrs ago we were at my inlaws, my FIL had a bonfire going, YS comes running in the house screaming that Grandad wanted to roast "HIS WENNIE". He had never heard hot dog refer to as a wennie,& thought Grandad wanted roast his wennie,

CB - you're TOO much!!<P>WAT

My favorite....what I did with the shirt bimbo made for H.<P>Tear it up and use it to clean the litterbox.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by wasstubborn:<BR><B>My favorite....what I did with the shirt bimbo made for H.<P>Tear it up and use it to clean the litterbox.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>HAHAHAHA <P>

I've burned just about everything I could get my hands on ('cept the cars...we sold one, Kristin totaled the other one). Burning is VERY cleansing! When I'd get frustrated, I'd even ask Robert for more fuel! <P>Lori

I'm glad everyone got such a kick out of this. I mentioned the weenie roast to my H and he didn't really think it was quite as funny as I did. I wonder why Maybe because he was cooking dinner and he was standing a little too close to the flame on the stove.....a little too warm for comfort??

Here's another thing you can do with the ashes if you don't want to go to the trouble of the urn - two words......<P><B>KITTY LITTER!!!!!</B><P>

Another perspective: treat the linens etc. as the valueless, inanimate objects they are. Wash them, take them to a shelter. If you see one freezing cold, sad person wrap the blanket around them, you may find it remarkable. You will feel warm, appreciated and special. Sound any good?

I think we did this along time ago with Lora. <P>I do recall what I did with the towels I gave him to set up housekeeping ( I didn't know about OW ). When he moved back home, I marked the corner of the towels with a big black X with a laundry marker pen, he was the only one who used them. I got so tired of washing and folding those dumb towels with the big black X... I tore them all up into rags and gave them out to all the neighbors to use as they wished. It was most gratifying, seeing the neighbors: washing their cars, changing oil, washing dogs, hopefully wiping their b---ts and other spectacular projects being done with those rags. H said " why did you do that, they were perfectly good towels"! Ha, good for what?<P>I got rid of all of his underwear too, bought him all new undies.<P>Cathy

Hi, <P>I am going through that now. H came home with bedding. Even though OW never saw them (he rented a room), I don't want to be reminded of stuff that were purchased out side of our home. Now he also took a futon bed, that I told him was not allowed back in our home. He can give that to a family shelter or something. <P>The real yuck thing is that H has a crystal glass the only one of it's kind that he left at OW's home. He went to pick it up last week and you know what happened. He almost lost his family over this. She sent the e-mail with details that almost make me throw up. YUCK!!! PUKE!!!!<P>I want to destroy that crystal that almost destroyed my family, but this is special to H. Debating that one. Any thoughts would be appreciated. <P>My opinion: Destroy what ever you feel you need to. Comforters are replaceable. So are crystal glasses. Oops, did I drop that? <P>L.<BR>

H had an ugly sweater that I know the OW bought. He never wore it but i kept seeing it in the closet. So I threw it int the trash. I considered putting it in the Goodwill box but I felt like it was cursed and didn't want some other poor unfortuante person to get that bad mojo lol.

Well-sadly for me I still am not too sure what exactly was "ruined" by her presence. The OW was a friend of mine. As soon as H told me what had taken place over a two year period I set to destroying every picture I had of her and her family. We had taken a 1000 trip by car with the OW and her family-I had many pictures. Also-we went to each others kids birthday parties and all.<P>I got rid of my car-I know she went holiday shopping-yeah right-with my H and rode in it. But H still has his truck-and yes it was used I don't ever get in it.<P>I like everyones ideas-the more rotten the better <P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."<p>[This message has been edited by heartache (edited May 02, 2001).]