I read what you wrote on the PMS thread...<P>As I said, you do need help... and anyone who needs help and is trying to find the answers is WELCOME HERE.<P>I personally cannot help you any longer... I honestly (as I said before) can't tell you why the "dishonesty" bothered me so much, but it did.<P>Don't leave... stay and learn... but remember that when you come here and say how awful your marriage is and that's why you're having an affair, well... there's gonna be some people who have a problem with that... but there are those here to wish to help you... I was certainly trying.<P>Best wishes as you begin to repair your marriage. Honestly.<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

sad...<P>you said that this is a support board for the BS....<P>well that is a load of 'bs' all it's own...<P>no, this is a board for all whose lives have been affected by infidelity....<P>betrayed, betrayer, thinking of betraying...etc......<P>I was betrayed....Sheryl, (new beginning) my friend has been both....who would have thought I could be best friends with an OW??<P>some will indeed judge, some will use words harsher than intended...some pull long lost feelings of rage and anger and will direct it at those whose words echo so painfully what they themselves heard...<P>stay or go.......the choice is yours.....<P>your words and beliefs are inflamatory to some...I can see why......but, if you can acknowledge this, we can try to help.<P>but if you choose to stay, do it to better your marriage, or to better yourself.<P><I>I thought once upon a time that we promised not to judge, condemn or ostracise on this board....no matter what...</I><P>Dylan<P>

Just had to add this, Seems like Satan himself was on that thread after all. Please, I need you all during this time, let's not let this demon destroy the good that comes off these lines. Let him go do what ever he wants, I really don't think he wants help at all, he just wants to stir the pot now!! I did not mean any thing judgemental, I just saw those "pull you down" qualities in his comments! Please allow me your apologies and acceptance> SEF

No problem, <B>SEF</B>...<P>it seems you might have sensed something that I missed...

Sorry Dylan-<P>"I thought once upon a time that we promised not to judge, condemn or ostracise on this board....no matter what..."<P><BR>I did the big bad boo boo-I did judge, I did condemn and I did ostracise.<P>So I am gone-leaving-cause I can't read this type of crap. it just hurts too much.<P>My personal opinion is this-NO ONE-and I do mean no one-has the right to rationalize having an affair.<P>And then to brag about threatening to leave if the BS goes against the WS wishes.<P>I couldn't keep my mouth shut.<P>Now that I have opened it I shall leave MB. I know I can't keep my mouth and mind closed to this type of behaviour from anyone.<P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."

Up for sad_and_lonely

Heartache, please see the PMS thread for my response...<P> no need to aplogize to me, dear lady and friend...<P>I am guilty on more than one accasion of the same very things...I just get back up on the horse, and try to find a better way to say what I'm feeling, or deliver it in such a way that will make the offensive thinker think from a different point of view.<P>I love you.<P>but S & L needs our help...so does his wife.<P>Dylan