Hi all, I quess it is time for me to try and tell my story. It is not much different from anyone elses which is a comfort in some ways. My ex left right after new years. All I got was a letter on the kitchen table. Blaming me for everything and telling me she didn't love me anymore. I called her at my daughters a few times to try and talk, she was in a rage and said awful things, she then moved to my sons house once again, I tried contacting her and got the same results, she filed for divorce and pushed it through, it took sixty days to divorce. She moved in with her internet lover a month after she left. She denie's she left me for another man, it is everything I did in 23yrs that forced her to leave. She is still angry and tells the kids how happy she is, she insist now that I never loved her and we married for the wrong reasons. She moved out of town to be with him and thinks she still has her family in her life and nothing has changed for her except getting rid of me. Some of her family is happy for her and some think she is nuts. She doesn't see how many people this has hurt or the effect it has had on the grandkids. Even though she got her divorce, he is still married and waiting to divorce. what a mess for them. I am trying to be patient and understand that most of what she has said and done is out of this anger and rage and when the fog lift she might be different. I hope I can help her pick up some of the pieces and move forward. It is usually devasting to ws when affair ends and they realize what they have lost.

jabber,<P>I know what it feels like to have a divorce thrust upon you...<P>...yours was quick....<P>...mine took over a year and a half...<BR>...and I thought it was way to fast!<P>Be patient while you have that feeling...<P>Don't rush your decisions...<P>The divorce paper is just that... a paper.<P>Learn about <B>relationship</B> building...<BR>...and whether the fog lifts or not...<BR>...you'll be the better man.<P>Prayers.<P>Jim<BR>

Hi Jabber-<P>I am sorry I didn't read this earlier and respond then.<P>It sounds like the typical-sorry-situation <P>I don't really have any advice to give you but I wanted you to know that I read this and will answer anything you might ask if I can be of any help.<P>You are in a good place when you are here at MB-it is definitely a life saver!!!!!<P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."