I think you missed this on your thread - it is from K. You should read, re-read, and MEMORIZE the posts you get from K. (I have no reason to flatter K, but have been at this board for a few years and I can tell you emphatically that his advice is RIGHT ON!)<P>Here is what he wrote to you:<P>(not sure if I can get the formatting right, but here it goes!)<P>[quote]struggling:<BR>One reason that I want you to call the MB counseling center (and try to worm into an appointment TODAY) is because they would likely be available to your husband to talk with him, after you told them.<P>It may not be necessary, but it's a good fall-back plan. It also demonstrates your willingness to work on the issues and that you're considering the pain he may be in. I hope that you'll consider it. [quote/]<P>You came to the right place struggling.<P>Remember those 4 KEYS that Kay mentioned:<P>Rule of protection (no lovebusters)<BR>Meet each others emotional needs<BR>Rule of Honesty<BR>POJA (Policy of Joint Agreement).<P>God Bless!<BR>TnT<BR>