You posted this on my earlier thread:<P>"elad,<BR>Have you ever thought about reverse physcology? Tell her you love her too and then I think you are right may be we both need our space. I do it with my husband all the time."<P>Could you explain a little more?<P>My wife & I do exchange "I love yous" every day...are you saying that there should be less contact and more space? That would seem to be a Plan A contradiction.<P>How does this work with your husband?<P>Thanks for any insight.... <P> <P>

Hi Elad,<P>I really do not know where you are in you relationship. But, I say things to make him think. He told that god brought her to help him. I told him how can I stand in the way of what god brought together. She is helping our marriage. I told him she helping you right out of yours. It makes him think a little. I am to the point I do not care any more. It will be his lost not mine. He has nothing. I am pretty sure that I saw her snuggling with another man the other night. I wish I knew how she gets all the men. She is not that great. She must no how talk the talk. She ruined another marriage before mine. They talk about how terrible their marriages are with each other. It is just pathic. I just do not understand. Actually, I am to the point that I want to move on. I have grown alot through this and relize my mistakes as far as to my marriage. I would like to find a man who would love me and take care of me and my little girl. I just keep thinking that I might just find something really wonderful. By the way, my husband has a drug and drinking problem. I know he will not change. It is funny. He kept telling me how unhappy he was while he was having the affair. So I tell him your the one that is unhappy and then he tells that he is happy. I think he is using me, but he tells he is not. I am sorry for getting long winded.