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I've read somewhere that when the A continues after it is exposed it takes about the same amount of time to run it's course as the length of the A before exposure. Does anyone know of examples that prove or disprove this?
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I dont think its very true since alot of affairs end on discovery.<P>Mine is lenght of time before 6 months, after 20 months... yikes<BR>Lora
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I have read that on the average 6 months after it has been revealed<P>
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by MAEZY:<BR><B>I've read somewhere that when the A continues after it is exposed it takes about the same amount of time to run it's course as the length of the A before exposure. Does anyone know of examples that prove or disprove this?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><BR>I had an affair w/a married man 8 years ago. The divorce was final 16 months after we started seeing each other. We are still together today. We got married three years ago. <BR>
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Maezy:<BR>My H met his OW in September they were sexually involved by October 28th they were hot and heavy through the month of November renting hotel rooms weekly. They slowed down some for December then she got caught on New Year's Eve. I found out on Jan 3. My H left to be with OW as she was kicked out by her H.<P>Their relationship was the largest disaster you ahve seen for a while and it was over by the end of March. <P>So three months under cover and three months out in the open. Your theory sounds right to me. It was true in my case. Today My h hates her, hates the thought of her, the memory of her, he states that he does not have one good memory of her at all.<P>BTW isthis it why are you posting here?
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Well, my H and I divorced in December. I think but don't know for sure that the A went on for six years before discovery and two years after discovery and then divorce. They are still together in a very public way but she has said to me and to others that she won't marry until her children are raised which is six years. MrsS, I think it's OK if isthisit posts her facts. I don't like what she did and hate all cheaters and my life has been wrecked by cheating but I was too hopeful for too long.<P>
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Discarded:<BR>Please understand that I am not trying to "slam" anyone I was simply wondering if she too is a BS or a former OP looking for support. <P>I really do not have any understanding for people who have relationships with married people (my own H included) because to me the facts are simple if someone's marriage was so bad that they need to cheat, get a divorce not an affair.<BR>
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Thank you all for your replies. I am wondering why isthisit would WANT to post here??? How's the marriage going?
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