It is Monday morning again, my WS’s "Monday Morning before work pattern” returned worse then ever. He wake me up this morning and said to me- Hey! I got an idea, instead of going lunch with me why don’t you go see an attorney and get the thing over with. I know this is going to happen and though I should stay out of our house last night to avoid it.<BR>After 2 month of paln-A. I realize that my WH has this Monday morning pattern. Because I told him as long as we are still married he should not cheat in front of my face, therefor during the weekend he won't see the OW( they see each other at work every day) and that just drive him crazy. So, the Monday morning before work, he will really push the separation issue hard. I understand his MMP cause by two reasons-first, he feel so hungry without seeing her and spending time with her during the weekend and I am the cause. Second, she might give him some Sh*t Monday at work about if he is going to divorce me as he have told her, why he is not showing any action and instead he spend the weekend with me. The only way to make he or her feel better Mon. morning is he do something to me to make me suffer. <BR>What does this pattern mean ? A kind of withdraw after a weekend of separation? Should I back off a little bit ? I do not think the Monday morning conflicts is going to help us. I understand all that pressure he feel Monday morning is not from me, but he blame me for the trouble and think the only way to make it better is if I go away. Still keep plan-Aing? Please give me some directions. Thanks.<BR>

I agree, the Monday morning conflicts are not helping you. Is there anyway to diffuse the conflict? Is there anything you can plan for Monday mornings that can be a deposit instead of withdrawal?<P>Maybe set your alarm early and cook him a wonderful breakfast? Stage something wonderful for each morning and each evening - this is your chance to make home the best place to be. <P>TnT

What a good suggestion TnT! Thank you!<BR>I think it is a good idea to do something in Monday morning for him or myself to avoid the conflicts.<BR>I will try to think of some thing today. He usually get up at 5:30am and do not eat breakfast though. <BR>Is any body here got any idea for me?

How about leaving him a little present in the shower with a card?<P>Get up a little early and put on some relaxing soothing music and simmer some good smells on the stove??<P>Breakfast in Bed?<P>hmmmmm.... I know someone will come up with something, why not start a new thread asking for ideas?<P>