Folks, newcomers in particular:<P>PLEASE READ THE ARTICLES ON THIS SITE!!!<P>There is an ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE storehouse of knowledge all packed in on this site. Articles that speak of more than just love banks and love busters - but articles that talk of what you can expect of your WS, how to affair proof your marriage, how to best effect recovery!<P>Then there are Dr. Harley's books... GREAT TOOLS in your efforts to renew/recreate your marriage after infidelity has tarnished it.<P>The keys to all of it are TIME and PATIENCE... and KNOWLEDGE!<P>Hope this helps.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

Well said, Terri. Thanks for the reminder.

Where do I find the article on what to expect from your WS?<BR>I haven't found that one.

The book, Surviving An Affair by Dr. Harley reviews that, Maezy. I am not sure that the articles on the website do. I will have to look around for you and see. I won't be able to until later.<P>

Hi Terri,<P>This is a good post. Is it possible to rename it something like: Newbie's please read first. <P>Then have some sites listed like the way NSR does. <P>Ok, I am going on here, but I have noticed some are not even aware of who the Harley's are and already posting here. <P>Thanks,<BR>L.

Welcome to Marriage Builders!! <P>Here's a link for you to visit--> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi10_tour.html" TARGET=_blank>Tour of Marriage Builders</A><P><p>[This message has been edited by new_beginning (edited May 13, 2001).]

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Good idea to rename the post. I'll see if someone can do that for us.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

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Raskal-Thanks for checking that for me. You know, I ordered Surviving an Affair over a month ago and it still has not arrived. It's driving me crazy! I guess it's backlogged. (I didn't order it from this website but from a Canadian one). There seems to be a severe shortage of books on Affairs here. It's an epidemic, for sure!

If the books aren't available here, please check your local library. Many of the suggested reading material are available at the libraries. Also, just a suggestion,,you might try ebay.com or Half.com. Lots of these books at both places.

Another option: If your local library doesn't have the book, see if they can get it through an inter-library loan from another library. I know that this is available at our small community college library, so it can't hurt to ask. If you don't want anyone to know why you want that kind of book ... tell them you are doing research for a graduate course! <P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

Sending this one to the top!!!<P>Do I get any brownie points for recommending this post?!?!?!<BR>Oh, forget the points, just send me the brownies. I like the kind with the walnuts. <P>L.

Maezy,<P>Here are two links that refer to a few things to expect:<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5059_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5059_qa.html</A> <BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5060_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5060_qa.html</A> <P>About half way down is where Dr. Harley makes mention of what to expect. I will try and look around some more tomorrow. I hope this helps, until you can get the book. <P>Orchid, <P>Of course you get brownie points!

Thanks Raskal for finding that for me.<BR>Thanks Terri for originally posting this.<BR>Thanks Orchid! You get brownie points!

<P>I'm with Orchid ... just send the brownies! <P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

Good idea terri!!<P>Here lately I am dismayed at how the MB message gets watered down with knee jerk advice...<P>To the newcommer, check out NSR's Welcome thread and READ everything before your ask the first qwuestion...you will save yourself much confusion and be able to develop a plan!!<P>Bill<BR>

Hi all,<P>Ok, brownies it is. Your next choice, with walnuts, macadamian nuts or what?<P>Sending this up to the top. It is on page 2 right now and needs to be more visible.<P>L.

Brownies it is....any kind of nuts. Actually all of the above, Orchid. Please? <P>You're welcome Maezy.

brownies do i smell brownies.........<P>