My husband always put me down. He tells me what a terrible wife I am. I can not clean the house. I do not know how to take care of a man. It just makes me so mad. I work eight hour five days a week plus I work a hour from home. I have a small baby. My house is clean. Yes, I am a pack rat and I am not very organized. But, My house is clean. But, You all know how it is the ow is wonderful. She works part time. I think if she was so wonderful. What did she do to make her husband neglect her. If she is so wonderful. If she was so wonderful she would have a good marriage. How in the h*(* does he know he dosenot live with her. Talk is Talk. I wish they would just run off together. Where they can live their own pathic lives. The poor babies they are so neglected. I would kill for what she has. A nice man who works hard. She can live in a big house drive a nice vehicle. I work hard trying to keep everythng nice. I take care of everthing. I just tired. He told me that I was worthless and can not do anything right. I am sorry I just need to vent.

Mon,<P>I feel your pain. I am sorry you are so down today. He is in the fog and has to justify his actions by putting you down. Keep your chin up and forget his words. Easier said than done I know. I too am struggling with my self esteem and words do hurt. ((((((((((((((Mon)))))))))))))))

Hi Mon, Sounds like the morning I've had. It's so depressing since anything and everything I do or don't seems to be just plain "wrong". Just don't react to any of it and don't take any of it personally. I seem to be having better luck with biting my lip, although it is harder. <BR>Part of the Plan A deal...<P>Hang in there, keep your head up high and smile instead.

Thanks<P>I am point where I think I just want divorce. If he thinks he can get better. Then he should hit the road. HARD!!!

Sorry for your situation! <BR>My WH said a lot of things that really kill me also.<BR>I remember that somebody in MB told me once - You CAN NOT take their words, a lot of time they do not mean what they said because they can not see at all when they are in the fog.<BR>Every time he said some thing really hurt me, I will think his head is not clear and how can I take a ill person's word? I then will pretent I were the tinman(check out the post "tinman").<BR>I really hope this will help you. Be strong !<BR>

Mon, how long have you been with Plan A? If you have been with Plan A for some time and are getting no response from your H, it may be time for Plan B due to the fact your love bank seems to be empty. I can recall feeling hate for my spouse as well before things started to improve. Hang in there.