Ok, I'm going to bite on this (although I <I>should</I> leave it alone). While I'm not judging anyone for doing what they do, I could (would) never cheat on my W. If I was going in that direction I would DIVORCE. <P>To me, infidelity is the ultimate disrespect and no matter how much I hated my W, I would have that shred of respect for her (and myself). I'm not saying this from a bible thumping perspective...I just know that I would not want it done to me either.<P>I applaud those who are trying to work through infidelity in their relationships. I'm pretty confident I could not get past it in my lifetime.<P>Here's my Discovery Channel perspective based on the biology of mating. Most male animals seek to impregnate many females...then they protect them. Any other male that tries to penetrate (for lack of a better term) the harem is met with quick aggression. In nature, I can't think of it happening the other way around. So I guess I'd say any difference in reaction could be primal.<P>Men would be more enraged, embarressed because they'd feel as though they were a lesser man. I'm not saying women would have different feelings. But for a man it's pride too. Many men would think less of a man (at least secretly)whose W strayed, however, I don't think women would think any less of a woman whose H strayed. <P>DD