How does plan A come into play when H works with the OW? H is the OW supervisor. In addition, I work in the same office bldg as H and the OW. I find there are days that I dread going to work. I just want the OW out of our life. Things between myself and H are going well and he has contact with the OW at work. My problem is that seeing her makes me angry and depressed at both H and the OW. Does anyone have any advice?

Ouch. I am going through a similar situation. Howvever, my husband and the OW are co-workers. I have the same angry feelings and I just want her gone. I keep hoping she will just quite and move on to a different job--soon. I have noticed that the angry feelings diminish after time. However, it does seem to take a long time. If you do find a way to cope, please share it. All the best to you.<P>

What a difficult situation, but not hopeless. <P>Is OW an "x" OW? or is she current? Regardless if it is X or current, the pain is the same. Continued contact is not a favorable situation. <P>I know it is difficult to be in the same place as OW - the anger must be truly a hard one to suppress - I would guess you have thought about leaving your job more than once!!! Don't!<P>Has your husband considered the 'legal' ramifications of supervising OW? I don't know how open he is to suggestions, but perhaps he should 'confess' to his supervisor about the affair - and how he does not want to put his company in jeopardy for sexual harrassment any longer. Is there anyway he could seek different employment? How about a job that causes a move out of the area? <P>Even if your husband had different employment, and you lived 3,000 miles away from OW, you will still find that you are angry. Anger is legitimate, but what you do with it may not be. <P>I know that the situation that you are in requires divine help, and I know that it is possible to receive that help! I'll say a prayer for you.<P>TnT