Some of you may have read some of my previous posts where I disussed how strongly I feel that we, as BS's have an obligation as human beings to notify the spouse of the OP if their spouse or our spouse are unwilling to. I have 2 OW's H who needed to know. One of them has been informed by his W. He called me recently and we were able to talk a little bit. He felt so betrayed to be the last one to know and that it took so long for him to find out. Now atleast he has a chance to pick up the pieces and figure out what went wrong and attempt to salvage their family. There were moments where I had regrets while I waited to see what he would do after he found out. Those moments were short lived and I am so grateful that God gave me the courage to do the right thing. Our society has become so self centered. When I read that people choose not to tell so that they don't LB their WS that just blows my mind. My H is gone right now and OW's H was very honest in that he felt like he would become violent towards my H is he sees him. Whatever the consequences we have to pay, we will pay them gladly. You can't go through life doing people wrong and then just walk away as if you never touched their lives. we spoke a little on the phone about the suffering we experience as BS's. The anxiety, the obsessive thoughts, etc. So he knows that he is not alone. Well, one down and another one to go. It is an awesome feeling to know that you've taken a risk and in so doing retained your honor and integrity.