I do not feel the same toward H. Since his affair OW is pregnant. The week I found out I was also pregnant, he told me about OW. So lately, because of my pregnancy and the typical changes, I have not had much interest in starting up sex with him. He is taking this personally and does not want to have sex anymore for a month.<P>I find myself thinking he's already been with someone else, no way will he go a month without. I don't feel as special as I once did. I don't even want him now sexually like I did before the affair. I am still angry at times, that I value my body then him, and remain loyal. At the same time, he just gives in to a hot moment.<P>So what am I supposed to think now? Will I ever stop being mad? Some days I feel very good about how I'm handling things, I just wish it never happened. Then I have days like this where I wonder what is the point.

I think most affairs are giving in to hot moments. All betrayed spouses feel like "hell has struck." The feeling can last a long time. But if you value anything about your spouse and you must have before the affair happened then recovery I would say is possible in most cases if your husband is willing. If he is not willing then not much you can do except togive it your best shot and try until he leaves. If you act as nice as can be under the circumstances then he will have less reason to flee to the other woman. She might also be not as nice because of the pregnancy. <P>I think you have to try to forgive your husband and smile on the outside but you will hurt and hurt for a long time on the inside. Everybody says time heals. But at the beginning nobody believes this. So many people just divorce. I don't like this solution myself. <P>I like the stay married forever approach. If you love or loved your husband then you wouldn't really want him to get away so easily into the arms of the other woman. So now you might have to do some selling on the concept that this marriage can still be very good. I admit is seems like impossible. But there does seem to be success stories. <P>We are all on this earth for some reason. An affair seems to be the hardest thing anyone has to face. So if we can get over this then that's a pretty good thing to be proud of.