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I'm just sitting here shaking my head. What DOES go through the minds of these aliens? Sometimes, I just have to laugh. If they would only listen to what they're saying.<P>Here is a pretty accurate rendition of the conversation I had with my wife (WS) this morning. She called me on the phone.<P>Her: <Son's> library fine came to $16.50, so can you give me half so I can take <son> with me tomorrow to <her parent's> - I need gas money.<P>Me: yea, I guess. What about all the taxes and expenses you owe me? (about $3000)<P>Her: I'm taking all the info with me to have someone look at it tomorrow.<P>Me: (Silence) (What I want to say: Hmmm, let's see, do you think "someone" can make $3000 of debt disappear? Why don't you just deduct the library fine from that?)<P>Her: Can you ask <au pair> to bring <son's> school pack home that he left in her car so I can pick it up for tomorrow?<P>Me: Well, she's not here now, but I expect her for dinner.<P>Her: Can't you call her?<P>Me: No, I took the cell phone away from her because she ran up too big a bill.<P>Her: What? Is she gonna pay it off? Are you going to take it out of her pay?<P>Me: I've already done that and she's dried up. She's leaving Wed. or Thurs. and she has no money. I'll eat it just to get her otta here and start over with <the new au pair> when she gets here Friday. I can't get blood out of a turnip.<P>Her: WHAT? You're doing WHAT? You're going to let her get away with being irresponsible? She's 19, she ought to have some sense of responsibility!!!!<P>Me: [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] (Silence) (What I want to say: Yep, responsibility. How old are you? How much do you owe me? So after 19, how long to you get to be responsible until you lose it again?)<P>Her: You've been too good to her!!! She's just taking advantage of you!!! When are you gonna get off your can and hold her responsible?<P>Me: [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] I gave her a chance and now I'm replacing her. What else would you have me do? (What I'm thinking: Just wait till you get your Plan B letter!!)<P>Her: You should make sure the next one knows the rules before you find yourself suffering because of her mistakes!!<P>Me: Believe me, I will.<P>WAT

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Oh yea, I forgot this part:<P>Her: Why doesn't she (au pair) take the dogs out more often? The carpets look terrible!!<P>Me: Well, she does take them out, but remember, it's not her job.<P>Her: Well make it part of the job for <the new au pair>!!<P>Me: You know it's not part of their responsibility to care for pets. Besides, I have a better solution.<P>Her: What's that?<P>Me: You take the dogs.<P>Her: You know I can't have them in my apartment - I can't afford the extra rent they'd charge me. Besides, you have the house.<P>Me: What's that got to do with it?<P>Her: If I had the house I'd take care of the dogs.<P>Me: You can't afford the house. <P>Her: It was your decision not to leave!!<P>Me: What?<P>Her: Yea, I had to leave because you wouldn't!! That was your decision!!! You have to live with it. So you have to take care of the dogs!!<P>I swear I am not making this up.<BR>WAT

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(Off-topic)<P>Please try and be kind to your dogs. They, at least, bear absolutely no blame for your unfortunate situation. <P>Good luck working things out, sounds frustrating at the least!<P>Adrian

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Dave,<P>You are a much better person than I. There is no way that I would have been able to bite my tongue. Can't wait to see the Plan B letter. Wish I could see her face.<P>You could try some warped logic on her and say <P>YOU - "Dear - Since you are so good at lying and covering things up, why don't you just take the dogs and not tell the property management."<P>HER - "Not that again. I can't lie about the dogs"<P>YOU - "If they ask you about it just DENY DENY DENY" "I think you can handle it."<P>HER - "This conversation is over"

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Cleo - I still adore you!!! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] You have no idea how close you are to imitating her!! Maybe I should be worried about you?<P>Dave (WAT)

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Dave,<P>Yet another unbelievable exchange...then again, it is believable. Why would something that has been happening for almost a year stop all of a sudden?<P>The bright side of this is that a Plan B has more chance of affecting someone that is seeing life through a special lens. If she was acting rational and normal, to me that means less chance that there is something to rattle with a Plan B.<P>Those dogs have no idea that they seem to factor into various science "non-fiction" short stories.<P>Enjoy the weekend.<P>Here, might as well throw in one of my stories. My parents visited last week.<P>Her (before arrival): Bring the kids to me Wednesday so I don't have to show up at your place.<P>Me: OK<P>Her (after her mom visited my parents at my place): WHAT, my mom visited....that is weird.<P>Me: What is weird about it? They get along great.<P>Her: Well...uhh, you didn't invite me.<P>Me: You are always welcome, but you wouldn't come anyway.<P>Her: So.<P>Sorry to bust your thread Dave...<P><BR>

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[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] Maybe I should be worried about myself! Conjuring up that conversation was way too easy.....

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Dave,<P>I like Cleo would <B>LOVE</B> to see your W's face when the Plan B letter arrives. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Do you think you could go down to your local spy store, & find some very tiny micro chip camera that could be implanted in the letter that would beam you the video & then you could post it on a website, to give me some entertainment. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Your W gets more unbelievable everyday.<P>You did well no LB's. How you kept biting your tongue, I don't know.<BR>

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by worthatry:<BR><B><BR>Her: You should make sure the next one knows the rules before you find yourself suffering because of her mistakes!!<BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Boy <B>Dave</B>,<P>I'm as impressed by your restraint as everyone else. I'm glad you didn't react like I think I would have, you need to avoid LBing for that last bit of time before your Plan B letter.<P>Dave's answer to the above if he had my impatience: "I'm going to make sure my next wife knows the rules of marriage before I wind up suffering because of her unfaithfulness."<P>Hang in there, pal.<P>Steve<BR>

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Her: It was your decision not to leave!!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I'm sorry, but I having been laughing at that line for the last five minutes.<P>

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I'm glad I could provide some entertainment. I'd feel guilty if I didn't share these gems with you guys.<P>Actually, this is very therapudic for me and I think my restraint - not always perfect - is helped by my plan to write these exchanges down and share them on the forum. Understand? It's easier to be restrained if I know that I can use her words for a laugh.<P>I've been tempted to say something like this at the start of every conversation: This conversation is being recorded for quality assurance and for training purposes. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Dave (WAT)

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You are so darned funny!!!! To keep a sense of humor in spite of all that you have gone through. . .<P>Sometimes I just get on this website to read your posts--there are folks that just whine, folks that are philosophical, folks that lend a caring hand--but you are just plain funny!!! Thanks for sharing with us.

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<sarcasm on><BR>You wouldn't leave... how perfectly awful of you, Dave!<BR><sarcasm off><P>It reminds me of this remark made by my husband fairly early on in this (icky) stuff.<P>Me: You never told me any of this stuff. You don't communicate!<P>Him: And I should be the one to suffer because I can't don't communicate well?<P>Me: (biting my tongue and thinking - NO, moron, of course it should be *ME* that has to suffer because of your inability to communcate)...<P>They have been assimilated. Resistance is futile.<P><P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>


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