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Tomorrow is the day of court for my divorce. I really dont have to go, cause it is a non contest divorce. Real cut and dry. But the letter said i can go. And most people told me it would just last maybe 10 mins if that.<BR>Well i have really been having mixed feelings about going. On the one hand i would get some really needed closeure. But on the other hand it would be painful to see her(having seen or talked to her in over a month). And it would be painful to actually hear the judge say "divorce granted"<BR>So what do you all think?<P>------------------<BR>Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
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I'm new here so I don't know your story, but if it was me I would want the closure, no matter how painful. Just my opinion.<P>Good Luck tomorrow.
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I had the same deal...I didn't have to show up, but one of my divorced friends (he had been through 2 of them) urged me to go. He said "you NEED to hear the judge say "divorce granted..."<P>He was right. I felt horrible hearing it, but now that I look back, I'm glad I went. I heard my EX tell the court that there was no hope of reconciliation, and that the marriage was "irretrievably broken." I heard the judge declare us legally divorced, and watched her move on to the next one like nothing happened. <P>Subconciously, a little part of you will say "okay, now it's really over," and you'll be able to heal. I look at it like it was a funeral...a ceremony to commemorate the death of a marriage. Your marriage has died, and you should be there at the end. Not for her, but for YOU.
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thank you for you help..<BR>and cjack you are right. I will go for me.<P>------------------<BR>Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
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I too was hpoing for closure. The Divorce came quick and I wasn't prepared, I don't know that you can ever be prepared. The on thing the divorce did do was let me know where I stand. I had to start accepting things and making choices for my life with out her. It has been 2 months for me and it still hurts, I still feel connected to her and she still does things to let me know she is alive. She wanted this and I wish she would either come out of the fog or leave me alone completly. I am not sure my divorce has brought any closure since I never got any answers, I was just cut off from the begining and it has been that way ever since, there has been no discussion on anything and she is living with OM. I wil wait for the day to come when maybe I can have a few answers and get the closure I need.<P>
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