Hey, I was the guy that wrote “a load of crap.”<BR> I don’t know if I am my worst enemy. I just don’t know if I am reading into things too much. As is goes I found out my wife was cheating on me and I told her. That was about a year ago. Now I am so freaking paranoid I don’t know what to do. I have noticed a few things about my wife and it would be nice to get some third party feed back. <BR> About a week ago my wife has been telling me things that I don’t remember her telling me. Like how much she sweets at work and how that she needs to clean her personal places. Yesterday she was late from coming home from work and when I asked her why she said, “ my boss gave me some last min work.” She went on and on about this and for her it seemed a big deal that she tell me and talk to me. As she was talking to me I had a blank look like I didn’t believe her and she seemed to get into what she was saying. I.e. stopping what she was doing and sitting down as she was talking. This was new. <BR>Also she went over old things that she has already told me. Now the flags are going up. I question myself and I am very confused. I don’t know if she is trying to reinforce her honesty or trying to talk me into believing her crap. It’s a hard call for me. Most of the time I trust my instincts and I am right. I feel that she is cheating on me again. This means that I have to investigate. This means that I have to put in a lot of legwork and suppress what I feel and know when I get home until I have the proof that I need to confront her. This is very upsetting and emotionally hard. Like last time I didn’t handle it well. Please give me some feed back. Am I crazy? I know that I need help aka counseling. But I know that people are the way they are. And maybe I need to give up.<BR>Thank you,<BR>

You are in a tough place. I don't want to guess if she's cheating on you or not but if you suspect there may be reason. Can you work on plan A? Even if she isn't having an A planA is great for a marriage and if she is, then this is the route too.If you find she is having an A you have the benefit of this website to let you plan a reaction -should it occur.See if you can create a loving atmosphere where she feels comfortable enough to talk openly with you.<BR>Good luck and keep us posted!