well H came in several hrs ago. I was asleep on couch waiting for him. He asked several questions about OS, <P>me:I asked if he quit, <P>him: yes. <P>What are you going to do? <P>Him: Look for another job. We will talk tomorrow (today)<P>me: what about now<P>H: I'm too tired & in a bad mood.<P>me: well are you all right<P>H: just gets the mad look on his face<P>Me: I'll leave you alone as that is what you want<P>his lights were on for maybe an hr, I gave up & went to fume in bed after that. Who knows when we will talk today, my YS will stick like a burr to him, especailly if no one is home to play<P>I am so sick of it all. Part of me just wanted to storm back up there, & say it is over, let's deal with now. But I didn’t, I am having a hard time not saying still I quit, you win, maybe it is the I will do it to you first, before you can do it to me.<BR>

Dear Sing, <P>Oh waiting is hard. You have been patient for so long. Some of your answers are just moments away. Hang in there my friend. <P>L.

sing,<P>You have said such wonderful things to me in the past ... I want you to know that I think of you often and have the best of hopes for you!<P>You are a very strong woman. You've dealt with this demon of infidelity so far from home...<P>Sing, he's there ... you know that he has feelings for you... I know it's so hard, but muster up that bit of patience and strength I know you have tucked away. Give him the space and the time, and you may be rewarded...<P>It's so hard for me to see you so close, yet so ready to give up. Just a little bit more...<P>Sending hugs and strength your way...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

<B>sing</B>,<P>Maybe you've had your talk by now. As long as you've persevered in this painful situation, I hope that you can keep trying a little longer.<P>If the talk is somewhat encouraging you may need to be honest about how near the end of your rope you are. I don't mean that you should be demanding or engage in disrespectful judgments, but just be honest about the toll this has taken on you.<P>At the same time let him know you're still willing to try if he will do his part. A man who has quit his job will feel very vulnerable--it appears that he is coming to grips with the need for big changes. Try to hang on and not burn any bridges right now.<P>I hope your talk is (or was) good.<P>Steve<p>[This message has been edited by StillHers (edited May 25, 2001).]

ditto Steve, sing. Please give it time. I know it's hard, but we won't let you quit now. <P>Hugs,<BR>Dave

He never could get around to having that talk. We briefly talked about OS, then touched on the job but he didn't want to talk. He was sick off & on during the day. Gee, I wonder why.<P>Thanks for the encouragment.

I know it is very difficult, but please try to be patient. He'll talk when he's ready, I'm sure......<P>We're here for you.....