Hi I am new to this bulletin board thing so if I break an unwritten codes of politeness please let me know and don't be offended. I have been married for 1 year and 5mths. This is my first marriage and I am 20. I have been with my husband since I was 15. We were high school sweethearts and I have only been with my husband sexually. There has never been another. I gave up Drum and Bugle corp to be with him and I gave up college to marry him. Three months after we got married I got pregnant and we have a 5 month old beautiful baby girl. Our finances suck and we are on the verge of bankruptcy.He works second and I raise my daughter. He gets home between 11 and 12 and sleeps until 1 the next day and then leaves for work at 2or 3. He doesnot spend time with our baby nad he does nothing around the house. If I ask him to do anything I get cussed out and called a *****. He tries to pick fights in front of our daughter and he is just no fun to be around to say the least. I have tried to do everything to fix our marriage. In the process I tried the Bible and found God and his saving grace. He did not. Boy did this seet the fire a blazing. He is 300x worse now and tries to keep me from going to church. I told him that we can get counseling or he can join the air national gaurd and meanwhile I am making the preparations to be able to survive on my own. The only time he acts decent is when he wants a piece. He has made no move to better anything. He just doesn't care. He is a manager at Food Lion and one of his cashiers got into it with astaker last night. he came home and before he even said hey he called wprk to check on the girl. Then he drank a beer told me the story about work and went to bed. In his spare time he looks at porn on the net goes to chaty room as a single 20 year old in search pf nude pics from our local area and watches tv. None of this has anything to do with our marriage or daughter. He cares more for his teenage cashiers than me or the future of or marriage. What do I need to do? Any suggestions are welcome. Thank you.

HI there HH,<P>Welcome to MB-I assume you found this place doing a search as so many of us have.<P>One of the real regulars and good old boys or girls will be here soon to give you a better answer and a warm welcome.<P>I just wanted to say a few things as you sound like me about 24 years ago.<P>I can't suggest what you should or should not do regarding your marriage. However............I want to suggest that you take care of what is most important-your daughter. If your situation is anywhere close to what mine was when I was your age then you are having a hard time being a good and happy mom if your life is this complicated.<P>You did a good thing when you went looking for ways to better your marriage. Finding God is many peoples answer to at least having their own happiness.<P>I hope your life will get better soon. If it doesn't please consider making the choice to do what is best for you and your young child.<P>Best wishes!!<P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."

My heart goes out to you. Strange how they change once the marriage is done and the children arrive. They no longer have your very special attention, it is now divided as a matter of necessity. A lot has been written about fathers being jealous of the baby. May be your case.<P>They will tell you here that you should plan A. NSR will probably be here to direct you to the proper site. Do it and then decide what happens next. Read Dr. Harley's articles, you will have an awakening to what marriage is all about and how to make it better. <P>My take, your husband is frightened. He is losing his singleness, and you are moving in a different direction. It has all come so suddenly. God is most important, he will lead you in the way to go. But H, is not yet ready.<P>Prayers and love to you, JS.