I am still in my self induced state of misery since finding out about my wifes second affair.<BR>I find it almost impossible to do plan A . I still feel that she is still cheating although she looks me in the eye and tell me she loves me. Sorry, I guess this would make most feel better but she did the same thing the night before I found out about the affair. It just does not carry the same amount of weight anymore.<BR>How does one carry out plan A if they are feeling this way. How can one encourage and support someone when they feel like their being set up to take a fall again. How do I get rid of these feelings, I feel they are destroying any chance this marriage has.<BR>I realy thought we had a marriage that was getting stronger up untill the last minute. I just don't no what to do.<P>Any Suggestions?<BR>Jim S<P>[This message has been edited by Jim S (edited May 28, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by Jim S (edited May 28, 2001).]

Did you she explain to you why she engaged in a second affair after working so hard to restore the marriage after the first affair? Did you both try counseling? Ask her if the roles were reversed would she believe you? Good Luck

Jim,<P>Click the link below then read it and think real hard about what it says concerning the extreme measures part and seek counceling with Steve Harley...<P>You can do it!!<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/009007.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/009007.html</A> <P>Bill

WilliamJ,<P>I'm not sure what you were talking about when you mentioned the extreme measures part of the post you had me read. Please enlighten.<P>Thanks,<P>Jim S