Help. I am lost... Just recently found out my husband has been having an emotional affair (with some physical). The last time he had done this was 8 years ago. We have been married for 15 years and have 3 sons (15,10 & 2yr). He wants to work this out but I am so afraid to hurt again. Its hard to explain to him what cheating does to your spouse. Sometime I feel like I can't breathe and other times are just want him to hold me so much. He is going to therapy to work out his issues, but he wants to be back together now. I know I am jumping around on this, but I am just so nervous and afraid. <BR>My H says that he did this because I do not give him emotional support or the intimacy he needs. I work days and he works nights, so it is very hard to get together. Most days I am so worn out because of work and cleaning the house (H doesnt help) and "down", because he is never there with me, that all I want to do is sleep and cry. But I never took it upon myself to find someone else to satisfy my needs. I have been with my H since I was 16 yrs old and I am now 33. I have lived over half my life with this man, and all he ever seems to do is hurt me. I know that he had been feeling lonely, but you know what? So have I.<BR>You know what hurts? He knew he was busted because OW H caught them on audio tape, but he didnt feel that he owed it to me to tell me and he let the OW H do it. Any advise? I could really use it. I have lost both my mom and father. Who I thought were my close friends dont talk to me anymore because of things my hubby has said and done in the past (they basically made me choose and I guess I picked the wrong one. I am so alone and dont know what to do.<P>FYI: OW Spouse told me about this forum and you can see both his "Jim S." or the OW forum "mixed up" on MB

Update. I am seeing a lawyer today. Is this too soon? Advise is welcomed<BR>

See a lawyer, but do not file yet. This was the mistake I made, and it gets thrown in my face daily. Research and question your legal rights/responsibilities, but do not sign anything until you have a chance to digest all the attorney has to say. Find out about the rules in your state. My state doesn't care that H was in an A. I hate that. There is no real justice for the offender. Watch your step. Get the facts, think, and post here.