My husband and I will have been married two years in one week. Last October I heard the name of the OW for the first time. Since then she has become much more prevalent in our lives. In February I found love notes written by her to my H. I was devestated. He said he was not willing to give her up.<P>He has two children from a previous marriage that live with us. They consider me their mother. One of the boys has spent a lot of time in councelling because he often threatens to kill himself. He is very attached to me. We have often joked that he would breast feed if I would let him.<P>My H has been seeing a councellor and told me last week that he spoke to the councellor about getting child support from his x wife so that he could better live on his own. My H wants me to call the lawyer and set it up!!!!!!!!!! He is completely withdrawn. He will not talk. I have heard throught he grapevine that he is not with this other woman anymore. This may not be true but I suspect that it is.<P>How come he is not coming back to me when he is leaving this woman. I am not pushing him or asking him questions. I left him the policy of joint agreement to read and he said"I don't get it and don't want to". Please tell me how long he will go through this withdrawl. I don't know how long I can Plan A this without going mad.

wow...many things to juggle here...i dont have great advice but hopefully some of the old-timers can give you more recommendations on plan A...this will move you back to top, and everyone deserves a response...<BR>many hugs,<BR>Scuba