<p>[ January 09, 2002: Message edited by: OffOnOnOff ]</p>

OOOO,<P>I just have a minute right now, but I read your post and I'm sorry you are feeling so bad.<P>A break sounds good. Take some time to recharge. I do hope you don't burn your bridges just yet. Get personally refreshed, take some time for you, then come back to discuss things. Taking a break from working on your marriage is not the same as saying you have to run out and get a divorce, so take the pressure off yourself and find some things that recharge you.<P>Then I hope you come back to talk before making any decisions.<P>Best wishes,<P>Steve

OOOO....very sorry to see you go....I have read many of your posts - dont always respond but your in my thoughts. Good luck ....<BR>Scuba

OOOO,<P>PLease check back tomorrow, I have something to say but OS just got up & I it will be awhile before I am to get to it.<P>Hang in there my friend, I am right there with you. I think our spouses are siblings.

OOOO,<P>I bet you are feeling exhausted from working so hard all this time to restore your marriage. I am sure that you feel drained. Please don't give up. She's there now and talking about a future with you. Open the line of communication. Its time to let her know what you need from her. Let her know without letting it sound like a complaint. It is possible that if you ask, she will respond in kind. <BR>Come back when you are ready, we'll still be here.<P>take care,<BR>cleo

Dear OOOO:<P>You know the wonder of this board is that whatever you're needing...hope...comfort...a good vent...release...there is help here...if only solace that what you are feeling is OK.<P>Having been at this so long myself I was feeling alone tonight...and like me...things are looking up for a change...but I've given so much that when I look down the long road to recovery I feel I just can't make it.<P>I guess what I want right now is for someone to carry the load for me for a while...someone else to do all the work...make all the changes....and that's probably not going to happen. It's amazing...after all the effort and pain I've endured....to give up now...when the goal is in sight...but that's where I am....I just don't care anymore.<BR>Maybe I will tomorrow...who knows. But I can say I understand....we've fought a good fight...maybe we just need to regroup and fortify for the rest of the journey. I don't know but I feel for you. <P>Faye<BR>

OOOO,<P>I am back with my new name. <P>I got the following off the recovery board form a thread started by Oneday.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>When you Just Can't go on<BR>32. Take a break from rebuilding, but do not withdraw;<BR>33. Think of your children;<BR>34. Do not make any decisions!<BR>35. Do not ask yourself existential questions!<BR>36. When you have regrouped, ask yourself if you have tried everything; resolve to try everything and to do those things you have tried a little better;<BR>37. Indulge in a good vent, preferably not towards the WS; vent here, vent in your journal, vent to a close and trusted friend/minister/pastor;<BR>38. Sleep on it;<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I think it is really good advice.<P>The link below is for all of it.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum31/HTML/002839.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum31/HTML/002839.html</A>

Hi OoOo,<P>I know what you are saying. I sure would like to put all this behind me as well. Some have said, recovery can be helped by taking a long vacation. In my case, there is time but no money. Oh well, making do otherways. <P>Hey, do what is best for you and your family. Time does heal all wounds. You sound exhausted and need a rest. Ok, when you are stronger and feel better, stop by for a chat or visit. Ok?<P>Take Care, <BR>L.<BR>

Hey OOOO, want to go get a beer someplace this weekend? I'll come get you. Look for my message in your e-mail.<P>Dave

"It was so bad we didn't think we were going to make it. We felt like we'd been sent to death row, that it was all over for us. As it turned out, it was the best thing that could have happened. Instead of trusting in our own strength or wits to get out of it, we were forced to trust God totally--not a bad idea since He's the God who raises the dead! And He did it, rescued us from certain doom. And He'll do it again, rescuing us as many times as we need rescuing." 2 Cor.1:9-10 (The Message)<P>Best wishes! Keep the faith! Consider yourself hugged. :-)

OOOO -<P>Dude, what's going on? I know, the same old same old. It's okay to take a break every once in a while. You just need to do what's best for you and what makes you feel better. You know that we are only here to support you, but we care about you, too. So, relax, take the break that you probably desperately need, but don't wonder if I'm thinking and praying for you - because I am. Take care of yourself. I worry about my friends. . .