Please Please pray for me! I think tonight is the night, my WH is talking to the OW right now!!<BR>The OW finally has enough and gives my WH a last chance. My WH called me and said that he is not coming home till he talk to her. My WH wanted a D ASAP at the D-day 3 months ago, thanks for the plan-A, I was able to make him come home to me every night and start waffling. He sees the OW every day at work and spends the nights and weekends with me.<BR>I know he is thinking, but 99% of the time he wants to be with the OW. It is very bad when she gives him a ultimatum, he is going to jump over the ring of fire.<BR>He told me that he doesn’t sure when he is going to be home, but I know when he gets home it is going to be bad. <BR>For sure she is going to make him make a decision tonight, what should I do? Should I leave before he coming home? Should I ask him what appended? What should I do? I paid for our vacation (end of July) today and he did not stop me to do so (he was thinking he might go) till he called me an hour ago! That is the indication of she is giving him a ultimatum this afternoon.<BR>I always afraid of this day will come. I can do all the plan-A in the world only if she gives me time.<BR>Will she do some LB tonight? How can I show my WH that I am the one won’t give him all those pressure?<BR>The whole thing could be over tonight! Please pray for me!

Prayers being sent!!!!!

My prayers are with you too; keep calm, if she's giving him an ultimatum, she is feeling desperate and pressuring him. She's LB! Sounds like you have been doing a great job with Plan A--don't give up! I think my H was with the OW tonight too, but I'm not giving up yet. We all have to stay strong and keep praying! Best wishes, let us know how it goes, octavia99

Thanks Nyneve, don't know who you are, but you and so many people in MB are my only family and friends!<BR>I know there is a super power above us!<BR>I never went to church, but I think I will tomorrow first time in my life( if I ever see the sun shine tomorrow). I am sooo along and afraiddddddd!

octavia99,<BR>How you do it? I have some really bad thoughts!<BR>If I could I will give you and all the hurting BS in MB all the luck I will have in this life time( not much though, sorry), you guys are nice people, You deserve it!

Hi Ttl2:<P>Ultimatums are not a good idea for anyone...OW's included...but 3 months into this WH usually are still in heavy fog...and afraid to give up the fantasy world they've found. So anything can happen...but it may not be the ultimate resolution so don't get down about it if it turns out bad.<P>I think the fact that he's stayed for 3 months is a good sign that he will not easily succumb to her ultimatum...he may resist...and try to break away from her...and then you'll be dealing with a WH in withdrawal.<P>Whatever happens you can handle it...it won't be over...just a momentary setback...or the last ditch effort of the OW to exert what power she thinks she has. But evem of he decides to leave...he will resent her for forcing him to make the decision...and it will be a irritant between them. <P>You've done well to keep him at home while the affair was hot and heavy...just keep Plan Aing him...try not to LB whatever happens tonight...regroup and go on. I've been there and it's just another dip in the ride.<P>Faye

Thanks Buffy, as usual you give me so much courage.<BR>My WH cames home last night at 7:00pm, a kind of suprice me that he cames home so soon and can not stop wonder what happened. I did find a set of keys in his pocket though. I asked him if that are the keys to her appartment and he told me to leave that along. <BR>So, he asked the OW out to have a "drink" and they only spent less than 3 hours together along(first time in 3 weeks as far as I know) and he cames home without dinner with her. What does that telling me? I do not think he will cause all those trouble with me for 3 hours, beside when he told me that he is not coming home after work, he also said he does not know how long it's going to be(did say maybe 8:00pm). All those unanwsered questions, but I am not going to LB by asking him.<BR>I will be back latter with some more thoughts. <BR>

TtL2, Keep up the good work. No LBs if it takes everything inside you to stop it. When I feel weak, I pray to God at that very moment (silently) to make me stronger, to help me hold my tongue. If you find anything in his pockets, store the info away in your mind, don't confront him. At 3 months, the fog is probably still heavy (unless she is a total shrew), and anything negative he can store away against you (even tiny LBs) will seem enormous. Isn't it amazing how much energy WE expend to save the situation? You are doing a great job. My prayers continue to be with you.

Hey,<BR>I haven't been here for a while because I have been in a peaceful recovery for a while. (Thank God and after many prayers) I just logged on tonight and saw your post and it struck a chord with me. I will be praying for you. In situations like ours (as the BS)the only way to love unceasingly and when it does not make sense is with the power of God. Pray before you speak and let that guide your actions. If things do not go your way, don't despair. YOu will still have opportunities to shine and "plan A" him. She does not have being on the right side of things on her side. Be strong!!! You are trying to save you marriage in the face of adversity! You can be loving and calm. I will commit to pray for you until tomorrow at this time. Best wishes.<BR>Keep us updated sister.